Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

My boyfriend wants to buy two separate travel systems for each baby because he wants them each to have their own separate stroller(he hates the twin ones). He also wants it that way because one is a girl, one is a boy & he doesn’t like any of the colors the twin strollers come in because he wants people to know one’s his little boy & the other is his little girl.

I told him that instead of spending so much money on travel systems,we could buy two single car seats in whatever color he wants. He then asked me about a stroller. I told him that 99.9% of stores have carts & until the babies are able to ride in the stroller itself we could just use those to put them in. He hated that idea too.

I know how he is,he won’t look at the price,he’ll look at the pattern & design then buy. I know he’ll spend $500 easy. Does anybody have any other suggestions on what to do(besides letting him spend)?

This is my guess as to what’s going on.

Dad hasn’t had any say in anything regarding the kids. So now he’s dug his heels into something irrational and is clinging to it to the death because it’s the only thing he has to cling to.

So the question is, if one parent is taking both children out, how are they supposed to be pushed? Is he willing to wear one child while pushing the other?

If you want him to give on this, you’ll have to give him another decision to have control over. Pick one that you’ve argued over and have gotten your way on, if you really want to give him the idea that his opinions are valid. Just a suggestion from a guy who has been backed into a corner more than once and has defended a stupid idea to the death, even if I know it’s stupid. Pride.

Whether you are an adopted kid, you almost certainly feel like your adoptive folks are Mother and Father.  Zilch might modify the very fact that these are the people who raised you, and you’re keen on them to death.  However, most adopted kids feel the need to know where they came from.  This comes with a require to determine and try to relate to their biological parents.  Several adopted youngsters speculate why they were provided up for adoption, while they would not alter it for anything in the world.  This is one amongst the most common reasons that adopted children wish to get in touch with their biological parents. 

If you have got  to search for your natural parents, you almost certainly comprehend precisely what I mean.  There exists a need within us to grasp who created us.  Do we appear as if them, act like them, or have any of their temperament traits?  These are some common queries that adopted kids have.  But, it is awfully hard to get in touch with your biological parents these days.  Even if you speak to the agency you were adopted through, they usually have their records sealed tighter than the protection at the White House.

Most adopted youngsters have tried to reverse look up their birth parents through the agency of their adoption, within the telephone book, and even through various sources on the internet.  The bother is that those places solely contain one database, and it’s challenging to find any relevant data.  The telephone book isn’t a nice option if your natural parent is non listed!  The internet in general contains the identical sort of information you already have.

Luckily, most adopted youngsters know the names of their natural parents.  Whether you do, you’ll visit one of the free people lookup engines.  You’ll be able to enter their estimated ages and what state you think they reside in as well, but generally whether you have their name, that is sufficient.  You may instantaneously be provided an address and phone number of that person.  In fact, they utilize a network of many sources to ensure {that the} details you receive is as up to date as practical.

It is a difficult thing to go through emotionally and in different ways, to investigation for your genetic parents.  The unhappy factor is that there are children who are looking out for their natural parents for years to no avail.  Currently, with this sort of website, you can get the truth and the records you need in just a few short minutes.  This saves you the trouble and the embarrassment of trying to hound someone into simply providing you with a minute more details, and them refusing to do so.  Any child has the right to know where they came from and what sort of people created them.  Fortunately, it’s no longer awfully hard to find out the truth.

Crib bedding is the centerpiece of a well-appointed nursery, as more experienced parents and decorators will surely agree. The bedding you choose for your baby boy will certainly help him to find serenity and well-being as he begins life. Before choosing a pattern or color for their baby bedding, it is most important that parents familiarize themselves with the characteristics of safe crib bedding.

Crib linens should fit conventional measurements for cribs and tot beds to ensure that your sleepyhead has a safe place to rest. Stores with integrity now sell bedding with the right measurements, but you’d still be wise to double check this before you buy anything from a particular merchant.

Wise parents will avoid hypoallergenic materials by carefully considering these concerns when reviewing bedding products. A shopper who’s done his or her research knows never to choose an overly puffy quilt, as this can suffocate a helpless infant.

The parents are ready to start thinking after having all the information, about the color or  theme which they feel would be best for their son’s boy crib bedding. Parents inclined to search the internet will be especially amazed by the available variety of styles. To speed up the process and limit the playing field, parents should make a list of all the ideas and themes that they have been seriously considering.

Those parents who have already taken a final decision to decorate their home in a traditional manner would find themselves in no time drawn towards the large and very impressive variety of classic crib bedding. Classic styles in infant bedding have a continued popular appeal even today. Whether it be classic looks you’re shopping for, our wide collection of boys clothing is sure to offer something for everyone.

Linens that are traditional often contain soft hues and designs that make the baby’s room feel very serene. Striped fabrics (perhaps ones containing a boy-appropriate blend of blue and white) may seem particularly appealing for their son’s new haven. A white linen set is a beautiful choice that will give your baby boy’s room a classic but airy feel that anyone who enters the nursery will be enchanted by.

i would like to have both a boy and girl at the same time twins is it possible through Invitro fertilization?

Sort of.

You have to do PGD then have a boy and girl embryo put back into you. PGD is used to scan for genetic disorders. The remove a cell from the embryo right after fertilization (safe for the embryo) and dna test it. Through the dna test, they know if it’s a boy or girl. PGD runs about $2500 to $3000.

But nature might have other ideas. One might implant giving you only a single child or you might have a vanishing twin.

When you’re really trying to keep expenses down, it’s that much more difficult to get ready for your baby’s arrival. If you’ve done your homework regarding nursery decoration, you’ll know that the costs can pile up even before you decorate most of the room.

Crib set can now be purchased in many colors and patterns, and many of these have exorbitant price tags that remove them from consideration. These linens are usually sold as a part of the large multi-item sets thus ensuring a fully dressed nursery and the good news is that these linens come within the budget of the parents.

Pink baby girl bedding options are lovely and will appeal to tastes that range from conventional to a bit wild. You an sometimes purchase packages of baby decor that include all the extra pieces, rather than trying to piece together a design scheme. In most cases shoppers only get the essential crib linens, and then have the option to purchase additional coordinated accessories online.

In these tough economic times, bedding sets have seen an explosion in growth due to their reasonable prices. The best part is that the festive sheets and blankets that are offered in these collections are almost all hypoallergenic and free of chemicals. These are the safest linens for your baby girl, as they conform to standard crib and toddler bed dimensions.

Knowing that a bedding set purchase will allow you to make a lovely, welcoming room for you new daughter, it is time to select the perfect ensemble. Lots of new moms and dads are drawn to monochromatic color schemes. Ensembles of baby linens in one color scheme rely on beautiful details and textures to foster the serenity of the nursery.

The all pink color of the room for a girl has been popular for a generation and even today the same is favorite color but there are other options also available. Ivory crib bedding like other colors create a calm and peaceful environment for a baby. Snowy white linens that are perfect for newborn daughters often come with eyelet, lace, embroidery, or quilted patterns so as to create a dazzling nursery for the little bundle of joy and those who come to see her.

One day I was informed by my hygienist that I needed a Scaling and Root Planing (SRP) treatment. Since that fateful day when I declined treatment and looked for my own solution, I have written a book and have learned a great deal about stopping the progression of gum disease and preventing it from coming back. 

The unfortunate reality is that many people have this problem and do not realize it. One day, a tooth or multiple teeth may become loose and that is how many people discover the disease. Often the dentist will want to pull teeth and install implants or dentures. 

As a patient and consumer I was left very dissatisfied with two important factors. One, the dentist let this problem progress without giving me any viable way of stopping it. Two, she waited until things got out of hand to tell me I needed this ’special’ treatment. 

I certainly do NOT suggest that you reject your dentist’s treatment plan. I am merely stating that was a personal choice that I made – and it paid off. However, everyone’s situation is different and you need to seriously consider your doctor’s plan and if you are not happy, go get a second or even third opinion.

A little known fact (with consumers that is) is that you can go to three different dentists and get three very different opinions about what needs to be done. This is a fact that practicing dentists are aware of. However, I have never had a dentist tell me this – I found out for myself. Since then, I discovered that this phenomenon has actually been studied and documented. 

The use of the hydrofloss may be helpful for those who do not respond to brushing and flossing (which is the majority of people). These simple techniques are what we have always been taught about prevention since we were children. However, if they really worked, up to 80% of the population would not be suffering from this dental disease, would they? 

Oxygenated, pH balanced, Therabreath mouthwash may be helpful as well. 

Finally, essential oils, like oramd oramd can help. However, you must still focus on the daily disruption of plaque. 

 Therefore, do not fall in to the trap of believing that you are a victim of poor dental hygiene. That could be the case for some people. But, again, brushing and flossing are not enough to prevent problems in the majority of people. Do not blame yourself too terribly, you are not alone. 

All of this means that you should take the time to educate yourself about dental health and what works beyond the basics that everyone already knows about stopping gum disease and other dental problems. 

What You Should Know about Gum Disease. ISBN: 978-0981485508 – Available online at most book retailer sites. It can also be ordered by most book stores. 

Disclaimer: This article is for information and entertainment purposes only. It does not intend to render advice, diagnosis or treatment. If you have or think you might have gum disease or any other health problem, visit your periodontist or physician for advice, diagnosis and treatment. The US FDA has not evaluated statements about products mentioned in this article.

I am from a family of 4 (parents + my brother and I) and my husband is from a family of 6 (parents, husband + 3 sisters). My brother has 2 kids, a boy and a girl. We had our boy and a girl and everyone thought that we would be done. Then we went for our third. Three years later we unexpectedly became pregnant with twins and this is just incomprehensible to our families. They don’t understand why we would want 5 kids, and although we didn’t exactly plan it, we don’t see anything wrong with it. We have the money, the jobs, and the love to support a family of 7.
I was wondering if anyone else can relate.

I can certainly relate, and it’s no one else’s business how many kids you and your husband have together. They don’t have to "understand" it if they don’t pay your bills!

So I found out last week that my girlfriend is pregnant. She is 15 weeks and is pregnant with twins. Last night we went to the ER because she was having terrible cramps and was bleeding. Everything turned out to be perfect. Both babies are doing good and she is doing better with taking care of herself. Now that everything is going good for her, it seems like everything is going wrong with me. Ever since I found out we are pregnant with twins it seems like rock bottom hit. I am so nervous about having TWO babies! I know it is hard raising one baby but now two babies. I told my mother yesterday when both her and I went over for dinner and she was so happy. I then called her this morning and she was even more happy. She then started telling me… "oh, you better start saving money" "take labor classes" "this is going to cost alot" "are you sure the babies are yours?" I mean what kind of mother is suddenly not happy after finding out the baby is actually twins?! She is making me feel even worse. I can’t stop thinking about how I am going to cope with two babies, a girlfriend, debt, and maybe even 2 jobs. I know how my girlfriend feels and I am 100% in the picture but I think I am getting cold feet about this. Can someone help me and give me some reasurance?
Sorry. I meant to say… " I then called her this morning and she was in shock".

Firstly, Congratulations, you’re obviously a stand up guy and your girlfriends a lucky girl! Secondly, ignore your mother, she’s opening her mouth without really thinking first, she means well but probably doesn’t realise she’s scaring you.

Everyone gets a little overwhelmed when they first know they’re gonna be a parent, it’s a big life change. I’m on baby number 3 and it’s still a little scary lol. But from experience I do know that you’ve gotta chillout a little. I’ve raised my kids on a budget, we’re a low income family and kids don’t need the best of everything, that’s just what you want to give them. What kids need more then anything is love and I think you’ve got plenty of that.

Yes, it’s gonna be hard work having 2 babies at once, the trick is to get them into a routine as soon as possible. My children are 17 months apart and I’ve always said it would’ve been easier having twins because at least they would’ve needed the same things at the same time, instead of having a new born baby and a toddler running round

We are in the process of adopting a sibling group of 5 children. Plus, we have one bio-daughter already. So our house as you can imagine is BUSY and sometimes chaotic. Our oldest son is 6, the rest of them go all the way down to 1 (no twins). We’ve had them for almost a year already, but we are trying to find a parenting class or support group of how to manage a large sibling group so the house looks a little more calm and less chaotic. I’ve read many parenting books and adoption books, but any suggestions on how to handle a large family would be greatly appreciated.

We need more of a class/ seminar/workshop help than personal advice. Kids are all very attached and already consider our family their own family.
Thank you

I have 5 biological children, and I have managed to hold down the fort as a married sahm. Its hard, but it can be done, and it can be done with very little chaos if you organize and keep yourself calm. I don’t have too many suggestions that I can actually list, but I manage to feed us on less than $200 bucks every 2 weeks, and I manage to keep everyone alive, healthy, and mostly happy. If you had any specific questions, I could answer those. I am not a stuffy soccer mom, but I manage to be a pretty rockin’ mom.

ETA: I have yet to find a book or any organized advice (seminar, etc…) that covers practical applyable advice that was managable for my family.