Comments on: my twins?!?

By: rachel

rachel — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 11:37:59 +0000

they are 7 months old of course they don’t understand. There is NO way to explain it because they are babies. If you mean 5.30 am to 7 pm then you need to give up school for now and look at going back later. Your kids need a mother not a babysitter. You will regret this for the rest of your life if you keep it up. School will still be there in 5 years. Give your time to your kids now as you will miss all their firsts (step,word etc) they will bond more with other people than their own mum
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By: ann s

ann s — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 11:30:59 +0000

being a great mum is the hardest thing in the world, do I do this or do I do that. you are trying to carve out a future so you and your children can be OK, and there is no shame in that, infact you are to be commended for the choice you have made.

on leaving the twins in the morning, try to think of sometime down the track where there will be time to spend with them and great things you can do together,

If further down the track you can reduce the hours you work that will be a good thing but for now you are doing all you can remember that.

if you build solid foundations now later can be better. good on you for having a go
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By: Cristie Y

Cristie Y — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 11:01:59 +0000

I understand you completely!
your doing well and hang in there.

I honestly think you need to trade your job for something part time. your babies need you.
I understand the money issue but there are always ways to save. work out a budget, figure out how much money you need to survive on as a minimum, and look for part time work that you can live on at least until they can go to school.

babies are so precious, they need their mum, I do get that some times its not possible to do so, but talk to employers about your situation and if they arent understanding then you dont want to work for them anyways!

you could always work from home…i used to sell clothes on ebay, second hand clothes, i made $500 one week…but please dont leave your job asap, for something like this, establish it first so you have a steady income, then think about it…..
all you’d need to do, is get all your old, decent clothes to gether, or buy some second hand stuff cheap, re-sell. it worked for me.

I wish you all the best! your so brave!
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mum of 2
preschool teacher

By: Mr. A

**Mr. A** — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 10:40:59 +0000

i’m sorry, i know its hard but u cannot explaint o them.
they can’t understand anything.
but my advice to u is to spend any spare time u have with ur twins.

and try and get the father for child support for all he has
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By: drtoolman

drtoolman — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 09:58:59 +0000

Oh my, My heart goes out to you dear. May I suggest that this Sunday morning you get up and start seeking a church that beleives and teaches the Bible. What you need is Christ Jesus. Your most important task in this life is to raise responsible children. You as well as they have a soul that will live forever, it is your responsibility to see that they make the correct choice to serve Jesus. With Christ on your side there is nothing that is impossible. I know you feel like the time would be better spent alone with the children and Im sure you need the rest, but if you find a good church you will find a network of GOOd people willing to help you.

God Bless you child

d
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yrs of struggling as a single parent, When I accepted Christ, my life changed… I wouldnt go back to what I was for nothing

By: connie o

connie o — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 09:43:59 +0000

Hey keep a smile on your face. Your doing great. Smile and always talk to your babies.
Keep up the good work and your a great mom.
( Connie mom of 4 boys )
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By: goodgal_not

goodgal_not — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 09:24:59 +0000

Honey you are a super mom and shame on your parents for not helping you. I know it is hard to leave them but the time you have them love them all the more. They will understand when they get older the sacrifice you have made to give them a better life. My prayers are with you and your baby’s. Keep up the good work it sounds like to me you are a better parent than your own parents.
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By: turtle

turtle — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 08:47:59 +0000

Having a baby, let alone twins, without a father, at such a young age and no family support IS an impossible job. Too bad you didn’t think about all this before you brought children into this world. Now they suffer for your bad choices. That’s not cool. You can’t blame your parents if they aren’t helping you; after all, I’m sure you didn’t consult them before hopping into the sack. I think you should quit school and get a job that is part-time and go on assistance. Do whatever you have to do to make sure you are with those children as much as possible. It’s bad enough they don’t have a father, sounds like they don’t have their mother either. You really are responsible to do what’s best for the children, your schooling can wait. I know you are doing this to make more money in the future. You can go back to school possibly when the kids are in school full days.
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By: Donna G

Donna G — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 08:27:59 +0000

I admire you for going ahead to better your position in this situation!
You will get ahead because you are educaing yourself and will get a better career eventually which will help your little family. Good for you!
It is very hard to leave children with a sitter like this, most mothers who work have to go through it!
Just tell them that Mommy has to do it to make their family better in the future. You can show them how the money you earn at work buys the little things (you could get them very small toys or treats, or save for a big one) .
You could even draw a piggy bank and show how the money you earn each week fills it up to pay the expenses!
Don’t feel badly any more!
Just enjoy your kids, job and studies: that’s life!
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By: Lauren

Lauren — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 07:40:59 +0000

i dont think right now u can explain to them what you are doing, but in a few years, tell them and they will grow up appreciating u for wat u sacrificed. it comes with them maturing, u just have to address it at some point cuz if u dont, they might not understand the sacrifices u made. make urself feel better by saying to urself(after u leave them and are sad), "this is killing me right now, but its putting food on the table, and a roof over my kids heads, and allowing us to have a better life/future….therefore, it is not bad." think about it, if u stopped working and spent all ur time being with them(like u want, which is definitely understandable), there wouldnt be food and shelter for them. u should also get to know the sitter to make u feel like ur kids are getting the best care that u want them to have.
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