Okay now i’m scared?
I recently posted a question on if i should have children and due to the brilliant people who posted i decided to give it my best shot despite the the people who could harm my children in this world as there are so many dangers nowdays. Anyway i have adhd and went to check with the doctor the probablity that my children will have adhd and von willebrands disorder (type of hemophillia that women can suffer with ) that i also have. So he took blood samples from me and my fiance for relevent tests ect.
It turns out that i am already pregnant with TWINS (which also runs in my family)I really want children but its so sudden, i really don’t want to mess this up i can obviously give them the love and financial support i need but would appricate advise from parents of twins or children who were born quite close together. How did you handle it??
Of course i am very excited as is my fiance just don’t want to mess up and current parents advise mean more to me than any parenting book can.
Just to note it’s not the health problems i care about i would still love them but more the parenting advice
Don’t worry about messing up. The fact that you are concerned about it is ample evidence that you take this new stage in our life very seriously. If you do your best, you’ll be fine.
If there’s one piece of advice I’d give you,it’s "Go with your gut." A parent’s radar, especially a mother’s, is a very finely tuned instrument. If something seems wrong, it probably is.
You’ll learn as you go. All parents do. And you’ll make mistakes. All parents do that too. Learn from your mistakes, but then let them go. Beating yourself up about them doesn’t help anyone.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Be sure to get some down time away from the kids: by yourself, with your partner and with friends and family. It might feel like your neglecting your kids. But in fact, your kids will benefit as much as you by having a happier and less stressed mother.
Good Luck
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Aww, congrats on the twins! I’m sorry to hear of the risks, but having children will be a great joy. I’ll pray for your unborn babies that God would shield them from those things.
Even if they are born with one or both of those things, you will love them as soon as you hold them and that won’t change.
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just as you learn to be a mother for the first time, you learn to be a mother to twins. It will take time to get used to, but soon you’ll figure out what works for you. I suggest a good routine.
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You have obviously thought it all through… you will do great I am sure of it… I dont have twins and I am only just having our second… after 5 years.. so I cant help but felt compelled to say congratulations and all the best!!!
take care
xx
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Try talking to your mom or your mother-in-law. This is a great subject to bring you guys even closer together. But my advice to you is..
When I first got pregnant, I was so excited. And throughout my pregnancy, I was scared, then excited, the pissed, then scared again because I knew what a terrible world this was.. and I still do worry about it. Any good mother does worry about this. And kids with ADHD are usually funny and have better personalities. I have many friends with ADD and ADHD and I love them to death. Just pray for the healthiest babies and good luck to you. Your going to do wonderful, I can already tell.
CONGRATULATIONS!!
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I don’t have twins, my children will be 22 monhts apart, (i’m currently about 6 months pregnant with number 2) and i also don’t really know how i’m going to handle it… as my 19 mo is a HAND FULL…. but somehow i’m sure it’ll be just fine
and i’m sure you’ll be just fine too….
i also wanted to congradulate you…. having kids is one of the best experiences of life…
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well, since these will be your first kids, you won’t have anything to compare it to, will you? So it will be just as hard (AND just as easy as someone having their first singleton. It is scary the first pregnancy, but once the kid(s) are home, you just kind of have to figure it out…I agree a schedule really helps, but some babies WON’T abide by a schedule, so the best laid plans, and all…..just have faith that your children (as all do) will think your the BEST mommy in the world (because THEY don’t have anything to compare it to either!!hahaha)… And always remeber that if you need help, ask for it…people will be dying to jump in and save you! best of luck and try not to worry.
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Don’t worry about messing up. The fact that you are concerned about it is ample evidence that you take this new stage in our life very seriously. If you do your best, you’ll be fine.
If there’s one piece of advice I’d give you,it’s "Go with your gut." A parent’s radar, especially a mother’s, is a very finely tuned instrument. If something seems wrong, it probably is.
You’ll learn as you go. All parents do. And you’ll make mistakes. All parents do that too. Learn from your mistakes, but then let them go. Beating yourself up about them doesn’t help anyone.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Be sure to get some down time away from the kids: by yourself, with your partner and with friends and family. It might feel like your neglecting your kids. But in fact, your kids will benefit as much as you by having a happier and less stressed mother.
Good Luck
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awwww, congrats. I can’t imagine having twins. I have 2 that are 2 years apart and they’re challenging at times. You will do fine, reading will help you calm your nerves. Read several different ones, as no one book is going to be perfect, in my opinion. I pick and choose what works best for my kids and my family. WARNING: all mothers ‘mess up’ at times and we just have to find ways to forgive ourselves. THose little hugs and kisses and smiles will help with that. God Bless.
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Children and their parents grow up together.
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Mother of 4