I just found out we are having twins. Did anyone else here have twins, can you share some of your expreiences with me Answer to Carimel below: I am just 6 1/2 weeks and I found out from my ob/gyn yesterday

Congratulations!! Our son & daughter were 4 & 2 when our fraternal twin boys were born 9 months ago. We thought we had done it all with one of each, but the twins were a whole new experience!! And a great one. People are irritating though - they just like to tell you how hard it’s going to be & how they could never do it. Don’t listen to those people - you were given these babies for a reason, & of course you’ll be able to handle it!! Organization is key, especially in the beginning. Keep track of feedings & diaper changes - it’s impossible to remember which one pooped which time, so I kept a list for the first few weeks to make sure they were both going normally.

Like someone else said, it’s unbelievable how many people say "are they twins" - at least one person a day. If they were older & looked different I would understand, but how else would I get 2 infants? Just be prepared for lots of attention, especially if you have other kids. When people see us coming with 4 kids under age 5, all eyes are on us all the time.

No matter how tough it might be at first, it is totally worth it. There’s nothing cuter than 2 tiny babies getting cozy right on top of each other without even thinking about personal space. And I thought it was rewarding when my singletons would flash a huge smile at me, but it’s even more amazing to have 2 big smiles at once!!! All the best to you. Congrats again!

Forgot to mention - I carried my boys to 36 weeks, 6 days. They were 7lbs 4oz & 7lbs 1oz, so thankfully they got to come home with us. Had to have a c-section because Baby A was breech, but it wasn’t too bad. I gained about 50 pounds & lost it within a couple months. I’ve managed to breastfeed them at the same time & will try to continue until their first birthday, which is nice for bonding & also a money saver!

i’ve been thinking about haveing a kid recently. not any time soon, i’m only 19, but i am married. my mom is a twin and so is my dad. but they never had twins and i’m there first born. and my father in law is a twin yet never had twins, and my husband is the first born as well. does that mean that we’re likely to have twins when and if we do decide to have kids?

A tendency for giving birth to twins runs in the family. This is especially true of fraternal (not identical) twins. It is believed that twins skip a generation - however, this belief has no factual basis and is essentially nothing more than a myth. So if your grandmother or even your mother gave birth to twins, it is possible that you are carrying the gene which causes you to release more than one egg at a time, thus increasing the odds of having twins. This Dizygotic or two-egg twinning gene is passed down from female to female. So if your husband’s mother had twins, it doesn’t greatly influence the likelihood of you giving birth to twins.

Age
Age plays a prominent factor as well. The older you are, the higher your chances of giving birth to twins. Essentially, a 25 year old has half the chance of giving birth to twins, than a 35 year old has. The incidence of giving birth to twins has increased in the past two decades, as women concentrate more on their career and have babies at a later age.

Fertility treatments
Fertility enhancing drugs and the use of other reproductive technology also increases the likelihood of giving birth to twins. Another myth states that poor income families are less likely to give birth to twins, because they do not have access to expensive infertility treatments such as ovulation-inducing drugs and the like. However, this factor plays a small role in increasing the likelihood of giving birth to twins. Other factors such as hereditary play a much greater role.

Twins run on my mothers side of the family. And i think they might run on my dad’s side as well but i’m not for certain….

my mom’s a twin, my grandma’s a twin….and they tell us that myself and my cousin(of my aunt whose my mom’s twin) will have twins ourselves.

but anyways…how likely are my chances of having twins? Does the husband’s family history have to factor in to?
well it did skip a generation..my mom never had twins….

There is a high probability that you will have twins. Your mom being a twin should greatly increase your chances. My mom is a twin and I have twin boys. My dad also had uncles who were twins and his neice had twins right after I did. Your husband’s family history doesnt factor into you having twins but it could factor into your offspring.

What would the differences be between "twins"( Identical and fraternal) and the "mother / child" bond.

If you haven’t already noticed, there is an overwhelming amount of support for parenting for a woman who wants to surrender one of her "twins" for adoption, but keep and raise the other.

Almost everyone can understand the "twin" relationship, never separate twins.

What then is the difference between a mother and her child?

She has been w/ the baby since the beginning, has grown him in her body, genetic connection as well.

Why is the public comfortable encouraging separation between mother and child on a regular basis, but support the togetherness of twins?

thank you for your honest replies.

I agree with Lillie H. There is a bizarre social disconnect in our society re the mother/child dyad vs. twins.

It is well documented that twins are interdependent and even develop a social relationship with one another in utero.

The mother/child dyad is equally as strong as the connection between twins. In addition, infants imprint on their mothers via the amniotic fluid, and are chemically, biologically, physiologically, and emotionally programmed to need her and interact with her during their most critical developmental period after birth (1st 18+ MONTHS).

Babies know the difference between their mothers and strangers because, in utero, they have become familiar with and comforted by her bodily rhythms (i.e. heartbeat, breathing patterns, etc.), her schedule, the sound of her voice, her taste (through her diet) and her unique scent.

To separate an infant from this familiar environment upon emergence from the womb (a trauma and affront in and of itself!) deprives the infant of its nascent sense of trust and safety.

Imagine being plucked from where you sit at this moment and then dropped into the middle of an unfamiliar country or even a different planet. Without your cell phone. LOL Or walk up to a stranger and hug them for a full 2 minutes. How do you think that feels to the stranger - not to mention an infant fresh from its mother’s cozy womb!

I, like Lillie H., wonder how our society and culture have come to such an insane disconnect that we don’t even bat an eye when an infant is separated from its mother. It’s really quite beyond me!

I’m in 6th grade and i need to do an essay, and one of the questions was How are traits passed from parents to identical twins and fraternal twins? But when i looked it up it was very complicated to understand and i cannot find the answer anywhere.
Can someone tell me iin a way that i’ll understand? Thank you =]]

Let me see how well i can explain this to you… when you have a baby each parent contributes a gene. Whoever has the dominant gene, that is what quality the child will have (i.e. brown hair) With identical twins, they are split from one egg. This means that whatever parent’s trait is dominant, it will be that way for both children, because their DNA is the same. With fraternal twins, they dont have the same DNA because they each came from different eggs and sperm. They could have potentially different characteristics, depending on what dominant traits they recieved.

Hope that helps!

I’m in 6th grade and i need to do an essay, and one of the questions was How are traits passed from parents to identical twins and fraternal twins? But when i looked it up it was very complicated to understand and i cannot find the answer anywhere.
Can someone tell me iin a way that i’ll understand? Thank you =]]

Let me see how well i can explain this to you… when you have a baby each parent contributes a gene. Whoever has the dominant gene, that is what quality the child will have (i.e. brown hair) With identical twins, they are split from one egg. This means that whatever parent’s trait is dominant, it will be that way for both children, because their DNA is the same. With fraternal twins, they dont have the same DNA because they each came from different eggs and sperm. They could have potentially different characteristics, depending on what dominant traits they recieved.

Hope that helps!

My brother and sister a ferternal twins, and i am a identical twin, but she died.

fraternal twins are genetic and surprisingly, identical twins are totally random (according to med. lit.) so it only really matters if fraternal twins are on your side of the family, and they are, so you have a greater chance than someone who isn’t in that situation and isn’t taking fertility drugs, but beyond that i imagine it’s pretty difficult to estimate any kind of realistic chances.

My brother and sister a ferternal twins, and i am a identical twin, but she died.

fraternal twins are genetic and surprisingly, identical twins are totally random (according to med. lit.) so it only really matters if fraternal twins are on your side of the family, and they are, so you have a greater chance than someone who isn’t in that situation and isn’t taking fertility drugs, but beyond that i imagine it’s pretty difficult to estimate any kind of realistic chances.

I posted a question like this yesterday, and loved hearing your answers! So we’ll try again but with a different set of themes. This is sort of a BNG, but I would like to know what you would name your twins if you had to follow these themes? Either choose boy-boy names, boy-girl names, or girl-girl names.

1. Nature
2. Unisex
3. Seasonal/Holiday
4. Three-letters
5. Movie Characters
6. Family names (parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, siblings)
7. Gemstones
8. Book Characters
9. 3-syllable
10. Celebrity Baby Names

Thinking of new themes was a little bit more difficult this time, but I know you can do it!

GOOD LUCK! Can’t wait to hear your answers!
Maybe it’ll help if I give you my answers:

1. Nature: Willow (g) & Sage (b)
2. Unisex: Charlie (b) & Blake (g)
3. Seasonal/Holiday: Autumn (g) & Winter (g)
4. Three-letters: Zoe (g) & Max (b)
5. Movie Characters: Evelyn (g) (Pearl Harbor) & Landon (b) (A Walk To Remember)
6. Family names (parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, siblings): Charlie Thompson (b) (grandparents) & Evalyn Belle (g) (grandparents)
7. Gemstones: Jade & Onyx
8. Book Characters: Noah (b) (The Notebook) & Allie (g) (The Notebook)
9. 3-syllable: Everly (g) & Avery (g)
10. Celebrity Baby Names: Harlow (g) & Shiloh (g)

1. girl/girl; Autumn Savannah and Ivy Jessamine
2. boy/girl; Casey Jordan and Taylor Ashton
3. girl/girl; Holly April and Autumn Christobel
4. boy/girl; Dax Noa and Ivy Lea
5. boy/boy; Dartanian Forest (Three Musketeers/Forest Gump) and Carlisle Reif (Twilight/Pearl Harbor)
6. boy/girl; Tristan Grey and Karinsa Shannon
7. boy/girl; Amber Sapphire and Jasper Garnet
8. boy/girl; Holden Jay (Catcher in the Rye/Great Gatsby) and Rosemary Cordelia (Tender is the Night/King Lear)
9. girl/boy; Adelaide Marissa and Dominick Harrison
10. boy/boy; Kingston Levi and Bronx Dashel

I love these types of games! That was fun - you should do more!
(I I hope it’s okay to use some of the same names twice.)

Are identical twins with other siblings closer to each other because they look exactly alike? Are they ever closer to their other siblings than to each other?

Please answer if you’re an IDENTICAL twin, a parent of an identical twin, or know a pair of identical twins really, really well.

I an NOT asking about fraternal twins.

Yes identical twins are definitely closer to each other. however not necessarily because they look alike..
identical twins share the same DNA so often they will tend to have similar taste, mannerisms, etc -
Twins are the same age so they tend to venture through life together. They can really relate to each other because of these two factors.
Ultimately this strong sense of understanding & ability to relate to one another will help bring twins closer together.

I hope that helps. if you have more questions feel free to ask.