Comments on: My husband just found out he has 3 year old twins. Is he still in love with her? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/ Celebrating All Things Related to Parenting Twins Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:36:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Star http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/comment-page-1/#comment-3676 Star Tue, 15 Dec 2009 12:36:59 +0000 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/#comment-3676 I am truly sorry. No-one is really at fault here. What I mean is no-one really did anything wrong. She walked out for whatever reason. She didn't tell your husband about the kids probably because she was scared after what she did. Now you married him and didn't know he had BAGGAGE. Not your fault or his really. Unfortunately you are now placed in a situation you probably wouldn't have chosen otherwise. You need to decided what position you going to take on this. Are you going to be the supportive wife and do all you can to help this work....so that you husband can be a daddy? Or are you going to fight everything and cause more problems? Or are you going to just say this is to much for me I'm done? I honestly don't know where I would stand and cant say which choice is a better one for you. Because this situation is going to be a HARD one for sure. Your husband should be understand how OFFAL this is for you. But then again he's head is spinning. Maybe in time if you are supportive and Loving he will start to realize that he still has a great wife. Maybe have his kids over. Maybe have a sit down with his ex, your husband and yourself to make things work. If you are caring and understand he should be able to see that you are just trying to make this work and that you must really LOVE him if you are so willing to help this along. He does have kids now.......He cant deny that even though how he found out was a bit LOW. Obviously don't Put this woman down. He may not love her but he did have feelings for her at one time. So just say, "I'm sorry honey," I didn't know her past. This is all going to work out. Be excited for him about his kids. Show him you care about them and are willing to be LOVING to them. All this will show YOUR LOVE TO HIM and that just like your Vows said.....FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE. Unfortunately this is the worse. Good Luck and maybe a prayer for some help from above could be helpful.<br><b>References : </b><br> I am truly sorry. No-one is really at fault here. What I mean is no-one really did anything wrong. She walked out for whatever reason. She didn’t tell your husband about the kids probably because she was scared after what she did. Now you married him and didn’t know he had BAGGAGE. Not your fault or his really.

Unfortunately you are now placed in a situation you probably wouldn’t have chosen otherwise. You need to decided what position you going to take on this. Are you going to be the supportive wife and do all you can to help this work….so that you husband can be a daddy? Or are you going to fight everything and cause more problems? Or are you going to just say this is to much for me I’m done? I honestly don’t know where I would stand and cant say which choice is a better one for you. Because this situation is going to be a HARD one for sure.

Your husband should be understand how OFFAL this is for you. But then again he’s head is spinning. Maybe in time if you are supportive and Loving he will start to realize that he still has a great wife. Maybe have his kids over. Maybe have a sit down with his ex, your husband and yourself to make things work. If you are caring and understand he should be able to see that you are just trying to make this work and that you must really LOVE him if you are so willing to help this along. He does have kids now…….He cant deny that even though how he found out was a bit LOW.

Obviously don’t Put this woman down. He may not love her but he did have feelings for her at one time. So just say, "I’m sorry honey," I didn’t know her past. This is all going to work out. Be excited for him about his kids. Show him you care about them and are willing to be LOVING to them. All this will show YOUR LOVE TO HIM and that just like your Vows said…..FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE. Unfortunately this is the worse. Good Luck and maybe a prayer for some help from above could be helpful.
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]]> By: sillerious http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/comment-page-1/#comment-3675 sillerious Tue, 15 Dec 2009 12:23:59 +0000 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/#comment-3675 i am quite sure she had her reasons. she is obviously a focused woman who has goals according to her job and raising 2 children on her own. its a difficult situation and you seem very jealous of him being a "sudden" father and his ex back in his life. you cant change his feelings for her and it seems like there are still many left, even more so because he wont talk to you about whats going on but shares it with her. there isn't much you can do, if i was you i would try to be realistic and be ready for him to leave me . sorry.<br><b>References : </b><br> i am quite sure she had her reasons. she is obviously a focused woman who has goals according to her job and raising 2 children on her own.
its a difficult situation and you seem very jealous of him being a "sudden" father and his ex back in his life. you cant change his feelings for her and it seems like there are still many left, even more so because he wont talk to you about whats going on but shares it with her. there isn’t much you can do, if i was you i would try to be realistic and be ready for him to leave me . sorry.
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]]> By: me... http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/comment-page-1/#comment-3674 me... Tue, 15 Dec 2009 12:00:59 +0000 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/#comment-3674 she forgot to tell him becausei am sure she did not know who the father was!!! well if he not talking to you and talking to her you already have lost him!! why stay with someone who wont talk to u anymore let him go and find someone who will love you and not someone who comes back in his life to stir trouble cause this is what she is doing!!!! let him go he not worth it if he meets her at the park like a happy little family he does not respect you at all!!! i am sorry about that but heck why stay in this marrage and waste anymore time with him u will be happy once u walk away let him live a life with this woman who once she finds another man he will be left in the cold trust me she has no one now that is why she came back lol or she would have come back a long time ago!!! let him feel the pain like u are!!!!<br><b>References : </b><br> she forgot to tell him becausei am sure she did not know who the father was!!! well if he not talking to you and talking to her you already have lost him!! why stay with someone who wont talk to u anymore let him go and find someone who will love you and not someone who comes back in his life to stir trouble cause this is what she is doing!!!! let him go he not worth it if he meets her at the park like a happy little family he does not respect you at all!!! i am sorry about that but heck why stay in this marrage and waste anymore time with him u will be happy once u walk away let him live a life with this woman who once she finds another man he will be left in the cold trust me she has no one now that is why she came back lol or she would have come back a long time ago!!! let him feel the pain like u are!!!!
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]]> By: Cheesebrady http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/comment-page-1/#comment-3673 Cheesebrady Tue, 15 Dec 2009 11:51:59 +0000 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/#comment-3673 wow, you are up against a lot! she's beautiful, smart, successful, connected to his family AND the mother of his children? yikes, i wouldn't be suprised if your husband ends up going back to her. that said, the only thing you CAN do is to love your husband more. be nicer to him, more caring, supportive, kinder and more fun than this woman could possibly be. now is the time to cement your husband's affections for you, and remind him why he married YOU.<br><b>References : </b><br> wow, you are up against a lot! she’s beautiful, smart, successful, connected to his family AND the mother of his children? yikes, i wouldn’t be suprised if your husband ends up going back to her.

that said, the only thing you CAN do is to love your husband more. be nicer to him, more caring, supportive, kinder and more fun than this woman could possibly be. now is the time to cement your husband’s affections for you, and remind him why he married YOU.
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]]> By: nicole http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/comment-page-1/#comment-3672 nicole Tue, 15 Dec 2009 11:39:59 +0000 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2009/12/my-husband-just-found-out-he-has-3-year-old-twins-is-he-still-in-love-with-her/#comment-3672 He might still be in love with her, id watch out. You should tell him how you feel and see what he says... good luck<br><b>References : </b><br> He might still be in love with her, id watch out. You should tell him how you feel and see what he says… good luck
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