My girlfriend is having twins! Having some daddy problems!?
So I found out last week that my girlfriend is pregnant. She is 15 weeks and is pregnant with twins. Last night we went to the ER because she was having terrible cramps and was bleeding. Everything turned out to be perfect. Both babies are doing good and she is doing better with taking care of herself. Now that everything is going good for her, it seems like everything is going wrong with me. Ever since I found out we are pregnant with twins it seems like rock bottom hit. I am so nervous about having TWO babies! I know it is hard raising one baby but now two babies. I told my mother yesterday when both her and I went over for dinner and she was so happy. I then called her this morning and she was even more happy. She then started telling me… "oh, you better start saving money" "take labor classes" "this is going to cost alot" "are you sure the babies are yours?" I mean what kind of mother is suddenly not happy after finding out the baby is actually twins?! She is making me feel even worse. I can’t stop thinking about how I am going to cope with two babies, a girlfriend, debt, and maybe even 2 jobs. I know how my girlfriend feels and I am 100% in the picture but I think I am getting cold feet about this. Can someone help me and give me some reasurance?
Sorry. I meant to say… " I then called her this morning and she was in shock".
Firstly, Congratulations, you’re obviously a stand up guy and your girlfriends a lucky girl! Secondly, ignore your mother, she’s opening her mouth without really thinking first, she means well but probably doesn’t realise she’s scaring you.
Everyone gets a little overwhelmed when they first know they’re gonna be a parent, it’s a big life change. I’m on baby number 3 and it’s still a little scary lol. But from experience I do know that you’ve gotta chillout a little. I’ve raised my kids on a budget, we’re a low income family and kids don’t need the best of everything, that’s just what you want to give them. What kids need more then anything is love and I think you’ve got plenty of that.
Yes, it’s gonna be hard work having 2 babies at once, the trick is to get them into a routine as soon as possible. My children are 17 months apart and I’ve always said it would’ve been easier having twins because at least they would’ve needed the same things at the same time, instead of having a new born baby and a toddler running round
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Having a child is never easy, but it is worth it. Any sacrifices you make for you children is nothing compared to the joy of seeing their faces as they grow and learn and love. Trust me, I work two jobs right now myself, and I’m thirty weeks pregnant, and my husband juggles one job and school, but I wouldn’t change it for the world, because I know that I will have my precious baby girl soon, and all of the hard work will be worth it. Nobody has it easy, especially with the first ones, but you learn to manage, and you’ll make it just fine. Giving up is a permanent solution to a temporary situation. Things get better. You will learn how to work things out just fine.
I think you will be a great father, and this is an experience you will never regret.
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congrats! ok 1st off being a pregnant girl myself I can tell you I dont know how my husband puts up with me. lol! if yall are very young i can understand u being nervous & scared! i was when i had my firstborn at 18. be there for your gf and support her & i promise you she will feel bunches better & u probably will too! as for your mother i would not worry about her opinions…but dont be disrespectful to her…just let her think what she wants & when the babies get here Im sure she will change her mind! if you are this worried about it then im sure youll be just fine! and a great daddy! good luck & always make sure u tell your gf she is beautiful because soon she will start to feel not so beautiful! hang in there & best of luck!
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Cold feet would be a natural normal thing. But step up to the plate and take care of your kids. You had the fun. Now it’s time to pay for that fun. Know what I mean?
I had twins so I know how much work it is. but you can do this.
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Firstly, Congratulations, you’re obviously a stand up guy and your girlfriends a lucky girl! Secondly, ignore your mother, she’s opening her mouth without really thinking first, she means well but probably doesn’t realise she’s scaring you.
Everyone gets a little overwhelmed when they first know they’re gonna be a parent, it’s a big life change. I’m on baby number 3 and it’s still a little scary lol. But from experience I do know that you’ve gotta chillout a little. I’ve raised my kids on a budget, we’re a low income family and kids don’t need the best of everything, that’s just what you want to give them. What kids need more then anything is love and I think you’ve got plenty of that.
Yes, it’s gonna be hard work having 2 babies at once, the trick is to get them into a routine as soon as possible. My children are 17 months apart and I’ve always said it would’ve been easier having twins because at least they would’ve needed the same things at the same time, instead of having a new born baby and a toddler running round
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mom of 2 and 11 wks pg
well sometime’swe dont think anything is going to work out but i am sure that all will work it self out but iy is not going to work out if you dont first accept the situation and tell yourself right ok this is what has happened now i have to deal with this i am a man"" i can deal with this.Maybe some day’s are not going to be easy but yuo tell yuorself that’s pk maybe and hopefully tomorrow will be better ”not every day in life is rosy and that’s ok to.. just alway’s think positive and even if you come to a point where you right the positive and the negative’s to get a clear picture .try to organise yourself,your time know yuor responsibilitie’s and take care of them.You know that you can do it just alway’s think of the people that are in a worse situation than yuo dont think about the better ,be greatful for everything that yuo have in your life and even the thing’s that you dont have…..
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