Help, parents are LITERALLY ruining my life?
I know this sounds like I’m just some stupid teenager being completely dramatic, but my parents have ruined my life. If you disagree, please mention so. If its my fault, I want to take responsibility. I understand that sometimes people do wrong things without realizing it. I want to present the FACTS as accurately as possible.
1: Whenever my parents have an idea that they support, and I disagree, regardless of who knows more about the issue, they call me moronic and stupid for not thinking they are right. Today for example, my parents wanted me to take a practice AP exam for a class. This only encompasses the multiple section, a section in which about 95% of people pass, and I practice it daily. Essentially, to me its like taking a multiple choice test that asks questions like (2 x 2 = ?). I told them that I asked around and everyone who ACTUALLY TOOK THE TEST says that these practice tests are a waste of time and money (scams). My parents made a total list of reasons why I’m stupid, insulted me, and then told me that the test would do _____, in a way that shows they feel they know everything about the test, when one of them didn’t even know there were AP exams, and the other came from a foreign country and has never even seen an exam. In school I’ve been instructed on every detail and format of the test, and have already taken practice exams. At the end, they just told me to say yes or no and then "shut the hell up" without offering a voice of my perspective.
2: Arrogance is part of my family. I even admit I can be arrogant very frequently, but my parents’ arrogance is ruining my opportunities and education. My mother acts like she knows everything about school and makes up random statistics to make herself look right. When I give real facts, the only thing she ever says is, "bullshit". I am always wrong if what I say contradicts them. This is not some of the times, this is ALL the time. So much so that its ridiculous for me and others to hear. Can you imagine someone assuming they are right ALL the time? I can’t believe they haven’t noticed how ridiculous it is. My dad just said that UCSD is significantly superior to UCLA, though technically UCLA has more competition and a higher GPA expectation/SAT score average. He just said I was full of shit and that I didn’t know what I was talking about. He said he did extensive research and I’m here ready to bet anyone $10,000 he has never been to the UCSD or UCLA websites.
3: Dominance is too much with my parents. If I play an instrument and my dad is watching his favorite show, I have to stop right there. If my parents are ever sleeping, instrument off. I was practicing scales on the saxophone (something you need to frequently practice from beginner to pro) and they were mad because I was being "repetitive", when scales are supposed to be practiced daily. Also, if I ever voice my opinion, its wrong if its not theirs, as mentioned before. I then support it with evidence and strong proof, and before 2 words come out of my mouth, I get a "shut the hell up, not one more word". If I defy this and actually prove them wrong I get a punch/slap in the face and my dad says "your mouth is writing checks your ass can’t cash"
4. Simple enough, is it legal to hit your children in the head at all? What are the physical "discipline" laws in California?
5. At math SAT class we played a game of competition in math so that we would be motivated to work harder. I beat everyone by a significant amount of points and was so motivated to become a better student. Normally I don’t do so well, but I was so happy that I was getting better. My mother asks me what we did that day and I simply tell her we were playing a competitive game. Her response: "You probably got last place cause you suck at math, huh? Rachel (her best friend’s daughter) probably did way better because she’s actually smart". I know, this has to be unreal. Seriously, what mother says that to her kid? I think this is the worst of all. I was just planning on doing well in school, going to a good college, and just never associating with my parents again, but with my mother/father continuously calling me stupid and worthless, I feel no motivation to work harder. I know its all up to me, but to have the people who raised you and gave birth to you tell you that you won’t amount to anything really hurts. The only way my parents will be kind and loving to me is if I shutup, listen always, never give opinions, pretend like I agree and enjoy everything they say, and get the top of my classes for every subject. I’ve been struggling greatly in Calculus, and for the first time I got a 98% on a test (very hard to do because its a highly advanced class with a tough teacher). My mother’s response when I come up to her excited about my score: "Why didn’t you get 100%?"
I’m not saying my parents are twin-Satans,but they are conceited, stubborn, and arrogant. Because I’m under 18, they feel that they can make their word la
you are considering yourself like you were unlucky to have parents but think of others who want to have parents and still cant have them..
but still i would consider your situation…
maybe they are getting strict on you cause they love you and they dont want you to have the lives that they encountered in the past life and maybe they are just being traumatized on the pains and hurts that they also encountered and they dont want you to suffer also the same thing what happened to them. someday if youll have children of your own, youll realize parenting was so difficult esp. when your kids were stubborn and dont respect you…
love your parents give them their own dose of medicine … guilty feelings are nastier revenge dude..
-gwenn
Good luck *