Comments on: Was i wrong to tell my 16 yr old sister that she should have aborted ? she’s having twins . please read?

By: white_marz

white_marz — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 10:53:59 +0000

It was wrong.

Though you’re her big sis, you are not the one having the twins. Some people who get abortions struggle horribly with guilt. Abortion is a serious thing that only your sister, on her own, could decide to do. Plus, it can turn into a bad habit. You want your sister to learn to be responsible. If she gets an abortion, she could think it would be an easy way to get rid of kids, so she could continue getting pregnant. If she, on her own, truly believes she would not be able to take care of the twins…she could give them up for adoption. That way, she could some comfort in knowing her kids are safe with a loving family.
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By: R3G@N

R3G@N — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 10:06:59 +0000

You couldve told her opinion but it was her choice, still is her choice, and not yours. You dont have to shove your opinion in her face or pressure her. Just leave her alone let the person WITH the mistake deal with it.
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By: Height question guru!

Height question guru! — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 09:32:59 +0000

Juding by your wording your "pro-abortion" as YOU are TELLING her how to live her life.
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By: Kheiryrah

Kheiryrah — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 09:17:59 +0000

Abortion is not murder. You aren’t a baby until you’re born. And I think you are right, you don’t feel that she is stable enough to take care of them, but maybe you should have been more caring. I would recommend adoption because her lifestyle would not be fair to the twins.
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By: my edward is better than yours

my edward is better than yours — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 08:39:59 +0000

first of all, thank you for breaking that up into paragraphs.

second of all, i think your sister should give your twins up for adoption. abortion is murder, and even if your sister is the most irresponsible person on the planet, that’s not an excuse to kill 2 children.

third of all, maybe things would go better if you met face to face with your sister instead of just calling her. be gentle, she’s probably feeling very scared right now, even if she doesn’t act it. maybe you could go out to lunch or something. remember to stay calm, even if she isn’t. think of her as your equal, and not some little girl who you have to correct. she’s a lot more likely to listen to you if she feels like you’re just trying to give your opinion, instead of trying to force her to do what you want.
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By: BarBQFritos FTW

BarBQFritos FTW — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 08:33:59 +0000

No, actually you and your older sister sound like the only sane people in your family. You’re totally right that she should have aborted. If I were you I would associate as little as possible with a family like that.

I feel really sorry for these twins. Hopefully your sister has cleaned up her act at the very least, and isn’t still doing drugs.
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By: ticktock

ticktock — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 07:53:59 +0000

I don’t think it was wrong for you to give your opinion, if that was what you were doing. Now, if you said it out of anger and basically told her that abortion is what she should have done, then yes, that was wrong of you. It all depends on how and why you said it.

I do find it odd that you didn’t even mention adoption to her though.
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By: Summer 2010 Baby(:

Summer 2010 Baby(: — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 07:40:59 +0000

Well maybe instead of abortion she could put them up for adoption? But I do agree with you.
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By: Kassie Lyn

Kassie Lyn — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 07:25:59 +0000

Yes I think its wrong you told her to abort . I think you should of told her to think more carefully. A good option fr your sister is adoption, all that matters are those 2 babies.
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By: Cherry

Cherry — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 07:00:59 +0000

Hey, whilst I think you are right, that it was probably the wrong time for her to have the babies, if she didn’t find out until it was too late to abort then telling her she should have done is not really going to help or achieve anything.
At the end of the day, what’s done is done, you are entitled to your opinion, but I think you just have to draw a line under it all now, she is obviously going to have the babies, you just have to decide whether you want to be there for her or not, if so, let her know that whilst you feel it was bad timing for her, you will be there for her. If not, just leave it, no point stressing her out whilst she is pregnant when hormones are running high and she is likely to be over emotional and stress will not be good for her babies.
I totally understand why you said it, but I dont’ think anything can be achieved by re-iterating it.
All the best and i hope you can move out soon, sounds like a nightmare with your mum…
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