Is it ever ok for parents to disown their children for being in an interracial relationship?
My twin brother and I always thought our parents were good people until recently. My brother started dating this amazing african woman a year ago and I’ve never ever seen him so happy. My parents seemed ok with her because she is truly a great person and really is his soul mate. When my brother announced he was going to propose, I was thrilled, but my parents turned on him and begged him to "get out of his jungle fever phase and keep the family white." When he refused, they called his gf, blasted her with racist remarks and tried to convince her to dump my brother. My brother and his fiance tried to confront my parents but they acted like they are doing the right thing. He’s cut them off and I fully support him. My parents are now threathening to disown me for supporting my brother and not siding with them. What should I do? I am so outraged I stopped talking to them too. No racist answer please.
Nope, it’s never okay. They have let you and your brother down severely by this unfounded, disgusting behaviour. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. As hard as it may be, your best bet is for you and your brother to stick to your guns, tell your parents you’re disowning *them* until they apologise to all parties concerned and learn to love and support you both the way a parent should.
Familial love should be unconditional. They’re putting their prejudices before their children, which is an atrocious way to behave. Do not give in to them. Tell them in no uncertain terms that you love them but their behaviour is unacceptable and that they won’t be involved in the lives of any of their children or grandchildren until they can reign in their wilful ignorance and be supportive of you, your brother, and his fiance.
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Be neutral and yes, Indian parents do this a lot.
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Your parents are sick. Unless its about religon i understand(because in the future you might have kids, than what religon are you gonna teach em?) BUT COME ON? why do they not like other races???
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Ugh, ppl like your parents make me sickk…
Never. But just ignore them, they’re ignorant. They can’t stop you from doing what you want, or your brother.
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Let them disown you; this kind of bad influence from your parents is never good.
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The parents do have the right to associate with whomever they please. If you disagree with them, hit the road and take care of yourself.
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Go up to your parents and tell them they are total shit bags. Tell them that they deserve to burn in hell for being so childish as to not support an interracial relationship.
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Nope, it’s never okay. They have let you and your brother down severely by this unfounded, disgusting behaviour. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. As hard as it may be, your best bet is for you and your brother to stick to your guns, tell your parents you’re disowning *them* until they apologise to all parties concerned and learn to love and support you both the way a parent should.
Familial love should be unconditional. They’re putting their prejudices before their children, which is an atrocious way to behave. Do not give in to them. Tell them in no uncertain terms that you love them but their behaviour is unacceptable and that they won’t be involved in the lives of any of their children or grandchildren until they can reign in their wilful ignorance and be supportive of you, your brother, and his fiance.
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wow, that’s just awful. your brother should marry whomever he wishes, regardless of race. stick to your guns, but still be respectful, because they are your parents and one bad thing doesn’t make a bad person. I would sit down and talk with them (with your brother) and find the root of the problem. your brother should tell your parents that he still loves them, and he would love for them to take part of his special day, but if they can’t love and respect his future wife, then he doesn’t want them there.
good luck
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Stick with your brother. Unlike your parents, you have an open mind a kind heart and actually genuinely care about your brother’s happiness. It’s a shame your parents can’t be more like you.
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I don’t see why parents wouldn’t want to see their child happy. That girl makes him happy and treats him well I don’t see why her race is such a big issue . This is why some people shouldn’t have kids… Screw mommy and daddy…..
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Is it ever okay to hurt someone? NO. Same thing. They’re wrong and should be smacked. No offense. Sometimes older people….need to be….smacked.
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