I remember early on knowing my mother made bad desicions and I knew she resented her mother as well, although she’d deny it even right now. But its her mother’s fault for how her life is now. For some reason my mother was stupid enough to not become an airline stewardess when she had the opportunity to do so because my grandmother, for who the hell knows, decided it was too risky and told my mom to not do it. I don’t know why my mother obeyed my grandmother like a child but nothing she told my mother helped her.

My mother eventually became a high-school dropout with 2 twins and 1 with mental disability (my sister). My dad is a son of a b*tch who makes babies everywhere and can’t seem to take care of none of them. To be honest, in my mind I don’t have a father. He’s still some stranger that I wish would go away everytime I meet him. The funny thing is, my mother knew this, him not being worth sh*t, I mean. He already had 2 ‘baby mamas’….so did she think the 3rd time would be a charm? Again, who the hell knows but I know none of this has turned out good in anyway. My mother ended up living in the projects with kids supported by the US goverment. Welfare, food stamps, WIC, and living in a ghetto—yes all the things that would make you wish she’d had gotten an abortion, came our way. My mother likes to put this "front" on as if all this doesn’t faze her, as if all this is ok. She still goes church, which hasn’t did sh*t for her no time I can remember.

My mother’s dating history post-2 kids at once hasn’t been good either. Every boyfriend and husband she’s had while I was growning wasn’t worth sh*t and she knows it. I’m surprised none of the boyfriends she’s ever had hasn’t beat her or hit her—-but don’t worry. She’s currently seeing a guy who admit he choked his last girlfriend because he thought she was cheating online—and guess what?—She’s still seeing him. I guess she wants to end up in being the girlfriend he chokes to death.

You are too young to see the "big picture". Maybe it is all this that you’ve gotten to experience in your young life that will make you be a fabulously successful person? You have seen examples of what bad choices can do to your life. You need to be learning from all of these things so that you do not need to make these mistakes yourself. You need to be taking all of this in and turn it into something positive in your life. More often than not, kids in this situation will grow up to be adults that are just like their parents. It is up to you to shape your future. Your parents have tried to give you the tools to succeed in life, but it obviously seems like they don’t have much in their own "tool boxes". But ultimately, your anger and hatred will not benefit you. You need to look more at the good qualities in people and try to incorporate the best you see in others into who you become.

The person I would be with is a twin, and his sister is a twin as well, but the baby died a few hours after she was born due to medical complications. My mother carried twins for two months, but miscarried because she was in an accident.

Are my chances of having twins very high?

if both sides of the family are twins then yes. my cousins are twins and my partners cousins are twins so were thinking we mite get it too, apparently it skips a generation on both sides and were the next generation! baby dust

Ok I think I am anywhere from 2 to 4 weeks along. I have been very tired and it already it looks like I have a baby bump. I have also gained 4 pounds. I know you gain one to 5 during the first trimester. Can I get bloated that much or am I having twins?

You can’t be 2 weeks pregnant technically. Pregnancy is calculated from the 1st day of your last period so the day you miss you period (28 days is a usual cycle) then you are counted as being 4 weeks pregnant, ie 2 weeks from conception. Its far too early either way to have a bump and nobody on the internet can possibly know if you are having twins. Even if you were having twins they would be the size of a grain of rice at this stage.

Just book in and see your doctor for antenatal care, they will soon confirm if its one or 2 babies.

Does this mean they will not share a placenta? The Dr. Said that that having separate sacs was the ideal thing for twins?
Does this mean that they will share a placenta? And are youable to tell if they are identical or not if they have separate sacs?

well most likely they will have their own placenta, but doctors have proven that they can share one, and sometimes they can fuse together. mostly what this means is that they are probably non-identical (although some identical twins have their own sac and I believe they then share a placenta). Congrats!

They would have to do an u/s to see if they are sharing a placenta or not. They can be identical and have their own sac but I think it’s more likely they share a placenta then. If they have their own sac and own placenta, then chances are they are non-identical. basically the only way they will know 100% if they are or not is with an amnio (which can risk the babie’s life and should only be done if medically necessary), or if they share a sac (then they would KNOW they were identical).

Is there any way to increase my chances of having twins. My mother told me that an old wives tale says that drinking more milk can increase your chances but i am lactose intolerant so that is out of the question.

There are some African cultures, I believe, that have a diet heavy in yams - they have the highest rate of twinning in the world. However, I’ve heard some speculation about whether they really work or not or if it’s genetics that are at work with this particular group of people.

Other factors that contribute to having twins:
age 40 and over
being slightly overweight
having a positive family history, on either side

As far as dairy, the study I found compared vegans with non-vegans and people who ate meat. The vegans were less likely to conceive twins, but it looks like the non-vegans and meat eaters who drank milk conceived twins more than the vegans, but about the same rate as each other. Assuming you’re not a vegan, I’m not sure this study has much bearing.

Anyway, you can also take fertility drugs like Clomid, etc. if you want to go down that road, or even do IVF.