Comments on: I’m about to be the sibling of my mom’s cousin’s 7-year-old twins… Know of any advice/support groups? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/11/im-about-to-be-the-sibling-of-my-moms-cousins-7-year-old-twins-know-of-any-advicesupport-groups/ Celebrating All Things Related to Parenting Twins Tue, 22 May 2012 05:53:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Serenity71 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/11/im-about-to-be-the-sibling-of-my-moms-cousins-7-year-old-twins-know-of-any-advicesupport-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-4392 Serenity71 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:51:59 +0000 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/11/im-about-to-be-the-sibling-of-my-moms-cousins-7-year-old-twins-know-of-any-advicesupport-groups/#comment-4392 Adoptions placements often happen without first meeting the child. Our did. From a fostering POV your situation is very normal, often foster parents recieve emergency calls and hours later the children arrive at thier home. ( People who don't foster or adopt a child through fostercare rarely understand thats it not the same as a child minding service.) I would suggest you look for a local councellor experienced in adoption issues and assiting families. From there they should be able to help you find a support group with younger people around your age or even just a good friend who loves you unconditionally and will let you off load if there is an emotional build up without offering a load of unwanted/or needed advice. All the best for your new family.<br><b>References : </b><br>Adoptive parent through fostering. Adoptions placements often happen without first meeting the child. Our did. From a fostering POV your situation is very normal, often foster parents recieve emergency calls and hours later the children arrive at thier home. ( People who don’t foster or adopt a child through fostercare rarely understand thats it not the same as a child minding service.)

I would suggest you look for a local councellor experienced in adoption issues and assiting families. From there they should be able to help you find a support group with younger people around your age or even just a good friend who loves you unconditionally and will let you off load if there is an emotional build up without offering a load of unwanted/or needed advice.

All the best for your new family.
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]]> By: cathrl69 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/11/im-about-to-be-the-sibling-of-my-moms-cousins-7-year-old-twins-know-of-any-advicesupport-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-4391 cathrl69 Wed, 03 Nov 2010 21:27:59 +0000 http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/11/im-about-to-be-the-sibling-of-my-moms-cousins-7-year-old-twins-know-of-any-advicesupport-groups/#comment-4391 How utterly bizarre. Why on earth would anyone make that sort of decision without having ever even _met_ the children? Didn't it occur to you that "much consideration" should maybe include meeting the two people involved, and that they are plenty old enough to have opinions of their own? I'm not talking about giving a home in an emergency to child relatives who need it. It seems unlikely that that they need a home in an emergency if both their parents have already given up their rights and you still haven't met them. They must be living somewhere. Why isn't it with you, if you are the prospective adoptive parents and are family?<br><b>References : </b><br> How utterly bizarre. Why on earth would anyone make that sort of decision without having ever even _met_ the children? Didn’t it occur to you that "much consideration" should maybe include meeting the two people involved, and that they are plenty old enough to have opinions of their own?

I’m not talking about giving a home in an emergency to child relatives who need it. It seems unlikely that that they need a home in an emergency if both their parents have already given up their rights and you still haven’t met them. They must be living somewhere. Why isn’t it with you, if you are the prospective adoptive parents and are family?
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