Im really really upset and confused right now because Im in IBP and my parents cant take the fact that Im always doing homework. Fine, Im not always homework, but I get on facebook as well. But Im a family-oriented person. My family is always going out to have stupid barbeques at the beach or family gatherings and stuff. I actually hate those things. Theyre freaking stupid, especially with the fact that when I go, theres always only kids around. But I feel like when I dont go, Im not spending enough time with my family and because of that they get upset with me or whatever (but they just dont really show it).
I live in the United Arab Emirates so right now my family are on their way to Dubai while I have to sit at home and write a lab report that is due today (yes, I know its a Saturday, but my teacher made it due today). The thing is I really wanted to go to Dubai as well, but I just couldnt tag along because of HOMEWORK! Im devastated (am I using the word correctly?) with the fact that Im always stuck between choosing family or school. Both are important to me. My mom said that if I do IB Diploma, I might be able to skip first year of college. I think its important if I get to skip that year because my parents are also supporting my older twin sisters college and its like they have to pay lots of money for them already and I dont wanna get my parents to pay a lot of money for me too. So thats why I want to try to do Diploma!!
But Im also kind of thinking of taking Certificate next year, but I dont know if thats gonna let me skip through that first year of college… IM SO CONFUSED!!!!
Im not good at time managing either.
And plus my family is kind of going up and down meaning my parents are always fighting and Im SO SO afraid that if my parents get a (second-time) divorce in the future, whats gonna happen to me?
Or what if anyway if they dont get a divorce or whatever, what if I decide to NOT take the diploma and suddenly next year my family decides to spend less time for family and its like HEY MOM AND DAD, I DECIDED TO NOT DO IB DIPLOMA AND ONLY NOW YOU DECIDED TO SPEND LESS FAMILY TIME??? Im CONFUSED!!!!!!
I just feel like having a talk with them about respecting me and not pressuring me about always doing homework and not spending time with family but if I do, my parents will be like `well youre always on facebook though` yea well what am I suppose to do, though. I get bored.
What should I do what should I do what should i do? Im tired of crying about this already please help and give helpful and motivating feedback I need it so much pleasee :((((( Thank you
As a mother of kids in a similar scenario I would suggest that the first thing to do is talk to your parents one to one and share this with them. They will solve all your confusion as they love you the most. And for family time - unless you join you wont like them and if you are doing it to spend time together then go with the mindset that you are going to enjoy whatever !!! When you go a few times you will fit in the groove and feel more comfortable and happy. Hope this helps….