I’m 8 weeks preg w twins… 22 years old, first pregnancy… Full time student part time waitress… Very scary thing to face! Hopefully I can finish school (i have 1 more year left) and continue to work enough to support the babies… Any advice for when my lil buggies get here? I plan to breast feed, and my bf and I are getting a new apt together, prob when then kids turn 3 months… other then that i dunno what to ask/ expect!?

Have one put up for adoption.

Like the title says, I am a mom of 2 babies born within 1 year of each other. And no, they are NOT twins. I had the surprise of a lifetime when baby #2 arrived just 11 months and 3 days after baby #1.

Fast forward almost 2 years. My oldest daughter (H) is now 2 1/2 and my "baby" girl (L) is now 20 months old.

I honestly have NO clue how I made it this long. Every single day there are multiple moments when I wonder what the heck i’m doing. I feel like i’m drowning and just fighting tooth and nail to keep my head above the water.

H is a very complacent child she is content to sit and look at books or play quietly, but L is a huge instigator. She cannot stay at a task, toy, etc for more than a moment or two. This causes a lot of headaches because of how busy she is, and ultimately has her older sister egged on. I’ve had people tell me they’ve never seen children as busy as mine and question weather my youngest has "something wrong with her". It really hurts. My own mother even refuses to babysit them because they are too busy. So I feel like i’m burning out so much faster because I can’t rely on anyone to help when I truly need it.

The girls are constantly, and I mean CONSTANTLY fighting, biting, pulling hair, screaming, crying, you name it. And I end up feeling like i’m the worst mother in the world because I am out of ideas of how to make this stop and have the children that I was meant to have. We do have a schedule, but I will admit it’s a loose one with the main things scheduled being meals and naps. I also do punish them, I feel like i’m constantly raising my voice - or putting one child or the other in time out. I guess what it all comes down to is: I NEED HELPFUL ADVICE and someone to talk to who understands.

Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and I hope to hear from some of you soon.

Oh, my. Your girls don’t sound like they have anything ‘wrong with them.’ They sound NORMAL! and so do you. Good heavens, you are the mother of two toddlers, of course you feel like you are burning out. ONE toddler is enough to do that — TWO of them just compound it. And toddlers fight, bite, pull hair and scream– that’s just what they do. They don’t have the vocabulary or ability to make their needs/wants known through words, so they communicate however they can — fight, push, pull, bite, scream, etc. So don’t beat yourself up about that. TRY to stay calm and model to them the ‘right’ way to communicate (yeah, I know, harder than it sounds.)

Your schedule should help you. Keep the meals and naps scheduled and perhaps add a couple of things to the weekly routine — Tuesday storytime at the library or Friday at the park.

You DO need a break. Will your mom watch ONE of them at a time? Maybe even just the ‘calmer’ one? If your children can spend one on one time with an adult, that will help them learn to communicate better and more appropriately (ie: not screaming, etc.)

Then see if you can find some time (yeah, ha!) just for YOU. My thing was my ‘Thursday Night’ — take a bubble bath late at night after both kids were in bed. Just me and a tub of bubbles and a really bad sappy romance novel and a bar of chocolate. This half hour a week really helped me keep my sanity while my kids were younger (and I still do this even though they are all teenagers!)

I can tell by how worried you are that you are NOT the worst mother in the world. You DO care, that’s why you are worried. Keep hanging in there, honey. Soon these days will be done and you will trade time outs and smudgy fingerprints for driving lessons and cell phones. Sigh.

have matching names or start with the same letter ect

I never understood this,is it because its ‘cute’
or what?

I don’t mean to offend anyone
Im just wondering why.

I don’t know, strangley my twins are named Emma and Annabelle, but my first two boys who are eleven months apart are named Dilyn and Dustyn. Maybe I had that "cute and unique" thing out of my system. I sure do regeret it though. Noone spells their names right and it really makes life much harder as evryone tends to get them confused.

How do parents of identical twins tell them apart if they look EXACTLY the same?

They are looking at them all day so they notice the slight differences that other people would not.

my sister has 9 month old twins and i help her take care of them and we always try to put them facing ech other and see what they do but they turn around each one doing their own thing…i rarely see them laughing at each other ….why is that..what age do they start playing with each other and noticing each other?

Depends On When Thier Brain Devlopes And They End Up Wanting To Play..Now Since Thier 9Monts Thier Brain Is Still Set On Exploring..Like Thier Probabloy Still Thinking.."OOOHHH WHATS THAT!!>..or WHERE AM I?!?!?" But I Would Say Either 1-3 Years Old I Know For Sure By 3 Because My Neighbors Kids Are Playing With Each Other One Is 1 Years Old And 1 is 3 Years Old

I mean in regards to the 1 child policy? Is there any pressure on parents to give up one baby? Do the government make things difficult for parents of twins because they have 2 children?

China is not exactly the repressive regime people think it is.

The one Child policy until recent years was only ever implemented in major cities. Recently it has come into effect in rural areas (and yes, some government people act in horrible ways, but not with the direct approval of the central government. IE, some places have forced abortions at 8 months to keep their reporting statistics down. But that is not central government policy).

Chinese are not exactly stupid. They realise that people will have twins, and I have met many twins in China (I am surprise more Chinese people don’t use assisted reproductive technologies to give themselves twins and triplets).

There is no policy of selective abortions, they don’t give the child away or eat their babies.

The main punitive feature related to multiple children is that the second and third etc is taxed. That is it.

Currently in country areas, if the first child is a girl, the family can have a second child.

If you work on the Grand Canal you can have as many children as you want.

If you are rich you just pay the tax.

On a scholarship but it meant seperatig them even though it guarenteed them a brighter future- would you? Why?

yes of course I would want him to go. My twins have been in separate classes at school since kindergarten and they are both their own people they don’t do everything together. They almost went to different high schools but then both ended up deciding on the same one.

Now if you are talking about some special school where you want them both to go but they only have one spot and they would both be eligible for the scholoarship and I had to choose which one would go, then that would be different and I don’t think I could make a decision as to which would get to go over the other.

When you are expecting a new addition to the family, there is a lot to consider when creating the nursery. Designing it can be enjoyable if you can keep yourself from getting stressed. It is the perfect place to direct all that anticipation you have while waiting for your baby to be born.

One of the first considerations is whether to wallpaper or not to wallpaper. There are many really cute designs available. But painting is a lot easier to do and easier to change later on down the line. If you want to add some flair, you can stencil in a border. Put up paintings or some wall hangings and you are done.

The next thing you should think about is the floor. Wood floors are gorgeous but they can be cold. Little ones can fall down and get hurt easier than with carpeting also. The nursery is one room where it is probably best to have thick wall-to-wall carpeting installed. You will want to find one that cleans easily, as it is sure to get dirty.

After the flooring and walls are set, you need to think about the type of furniture that will look best in the room. Baby furniture is often white but black baby furniture makes a nice choice as well. It will match with anything, it can be used for either sex and it will be easier to clean.

A convertible crib is really convenient piece of furniture to purchase. It can be changed as your baby grows and his or her needs change as well. When your child gets old enough, it can easily be turned into a bed.

It is a smart idea to get all the bedroom furniture you need at once. Other pieces might include a dresser and perhaps a desk with a chair. Although it will be a while, eventually your child will need a desk. Buying everything at once ensures that you they all match. You can complete the set with a bookcase, night table and toy chest.

If you live in a home that is older and becomes drafty, you may want home space heaters. You probably will not want to keep it on all the time. But you can get the room warmed up for baby before bedtime.

Go to a home improvement store this weekend and spend a little time there. You are sure to get many ideas by walking down the aisles. Start thinking about it early so you can really enjoy the entire process of preparing a new home for your baby.

Are you running out of ideas to do something fun on the weekend? There are many good video games for family to enjoy together! Since video games can be expensive if bought for a different member of the family. Why not bring something the whole family can play together?

There are quite a few options available these days that do not burn a hole in your pocket. Although a point to be remembered is that the games should be chosen with discretion as not all games are advisable for young children. Make sure that the age bar specified on the box includes the age group of your children.

There are many good video games for family such as follows:

World of Goo is a good family game which is known to be educational as well as innovative. The game is built around collecting balls and building structures with them. Young children may require some help with this game therefore parents will also enjoy this game assisting their children.

Peggle Nights is a puzzle meant for parents and very young children where they have a fun time aiming and shooting popping characters with metal balls.

Lego Star Wars involves two of the legendary characters - Lego and Star Wars are paired together in one of the coolest games that can be enjoyed both by parents as well as children.

Sports games are all sports games as it lets them pick their favourite players and sports teams and get a life-like experience. Again, the difficulty levels can be adjusted and games such as NBA Street V3, Winning Eleven 8, and Madden etc can be played by parents and kids.

The Beatles: Rock Band - the name itself sounds fun! In this video game, music and excitement comes together and gives your entire family double the fun! Each of your family members can choose different musical instrument and sing along using special controllers.

Okami promises a unique gaming experience for the whole family with innovative graphics, characters and the concept.

Instead of resorting to television shows or loony cartoon characters, why not spend some quality time with your children? Leaving your children with video games may keep them busy but will prevent you from making any conversation and catching up with them. Dear Parents, Choose from a wide range of good video game to play with your kids and make fun with your family.

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The symptoms of bipolar are divided into two groups; they are manic and depressive. People with bipolar disorder are going to suffer both groups of symptoms.

Mania

Mania is the high point of bipolar symptoms . With mania the person is feeling high. They are happy and feeling like they are on top of the world.

However, the main point of mania is that the person is not only pleased, but glad in the extreme. All symptoms of a person actually has in a manic episode is pushed to the extreme that is why it’s regarded as a mania, not just simply be happy.

The other trouble with the manic episode is that because of the extreme high, the person may tend to do something spontaneously, and cannot control their behavior. A lot of people during this episode will feel like they’re unbeatable.

Another problem that will occur in a manic episode will not look like happy behavior. The person will be extremely aggressive and provoking. They will look extremely impertinent or annoyed.

Symptoms of bipolar (manic episode) include:

• Very confident
• Irritable
• High energy
• No require to sleep
• Unrealistic thoughts
• High self-esteem
• Fast speech
• Very active
• Incapable to focus
• Restlessness
• Irresponsible behavior

Depression

Another kind of episode suffered by a person suffering from bipolar disorder is depressive episode. Totally the opposite of mania, depression brings about someone to feel extremely weak. The person may feel very sad and low.

They may start to feel like their life is worthless. A depressive episode can lead to suicidal thoughts and actions.

The depressive episode is frequently more dangerous than the manic episode. This episode is almost always treated with the medication due to this reality.

The standard medications, though, used to treat depression frequently don’t work for bipolar depression and in fact will make it worse. Someone suffering from bipolar depressive episode usually will move slowly and begin to act extremely different than a person that is simply suffering from depression.

Depression bipolar symptoms:

• Feeling blameworthy
• Very sorrow
• Moving and talking slowly
• Always sleeping
• Extreme changes in eating habits
• Feeling of emptiness
• Sluggishness

It is important not to ignore the signs of bipolar disorder. The symptoms of bipolar are the first sign that something is wrong and the first opportunity for someone to get help and treatment.