My twin brother and I always thought our parents were good people until recently. My brother started dating this amazing african woman a year ago and I’ve never ever seen him so happy. My parents seemed ok with her because she is truly a great person and really is his soul mate. When my brother announced he was going to propose, I was thrilled, but my parents turned on him and begged him to "get out of his jungle fever phase and keep the family white." When he refused, they called his gf, blasted her with racist remarks and tried to convince her to dump my brother. My brother and his fiance tried to confront my parents but they acted like they are doing the right thing. He’s cut them off and I fully support him. My parents are now threathening to disown me for supporting my brother and not siding with them. What should I do? I am so outraged I stopped talking to them too. No racist answer please.

Nope, it’s never okay. They have let you and your brother down severely by this unfounded, disgusting behaviour. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. As hard as it may be, your best bet is for you and your brother to stick to your guns, tell your parents you’re disowning *them* until they apologise to all parties concerned and learn to love and support you both the way a parent should.

Familial love should be unconditional. They’re putting their prejudices before their children, which is an atrocious way to behave. Do not give in to them. Tell them in no uncertain terms that you love them but their behaviour is unacceptable and that they won’t be involved in the lives of any of their children or grandchildren until they can reign in their wilful ignorance and be supportive of you, your brother, and his fiance.

My boyfriend is worried that the mother of his one year old twins can just pack up her stuff and leave the state with her kids. They have been separated for 6 months, but he has been contributing to buying diapers and wipes whenever they are needed by her. And giving her money for the twins. She also lets him have the twins on the weekends. But neither one of them have gone to the court or state regarding getting custody or filing any child support or parenting plans. Can she just up and move to Utah without getting custody in order or a parenting plan done???
The twins has his last name and he signed the affidavit saying he is the father. The hospital lost the actual birth certificates.

Yes she can. Your boyfriend will have to take the matter to court to be granted any rights that the mother might be denying him as a father. But if she’s granted legal custody of the children, then your boyfriend can’t prevent her from moving to another state anyway.

You and your boyfriend(what are your names?) are 17and at a party and things heat up you sleep together and a month later you find out you’re 4 weeks along,and you tell your parents,they support you.At your next doctor’s vist you find out you’re having a boy,what do you name him?Now your son is 2 1/2 and you find out you’re expecting again!You and your boyfriend decide to get married,what type of ceramony is it?Where’s it located?Where do you go on your honeymoon(if you would want to preganant)?Your husbands at work you go to the doctors and find out you’re pregnant with triplets!girls and one boy,what are thir names?You’re first born sone is 4 1/2 the triplets are 2 1/2 and you find out your birth control failed and you’re pregnant,and you’re having twins,a boy and a girl.You’re Grandmother who you loved very much just passed away so you want to use her name in the babygirl’s name,and you’re father says he would like it if you used his name in the baby boy’s name,what are their names?Finally your oldest son is 8 1/2 the triplets are 6 1/2 and the twins are 4 1/2,you get your tubes tied,but you find out you’re pregnant again!It’s a girl!You decide you want a name that is very unique and not too common,what is her name?You’re finally done ahving kids and all the kids want a pet,your oldest son wants a pet that is cool,and hisses,what do you get him?The Triplets each want something fluffy and cute,what do you ge them?The Twins both want something different from the other kids,but want something that fits them,what are their personalities like,and what do you get them?Your daughter wants a puppy,what type of puppy do you get her and what is it’s name?

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Kellsea & Zachary
Levi Kenneth

Summer Lynn
Jordyn Kelly
Kaleb William

Kassidy Sue
Johnathan Michael

Austyn Rae

Garden Snake,named Slithers

A Kitty for Summer,named Smokey
A Kitty for Jordyn,named Stormy
A Pomeranian for Kaleb,named Nikki

Kassidy is a lover,nice,and fun so she gets a labrador puppy,blonde,and it’s name is Sunny.
Johnathan is wild,sweet,and a little prankster so he wanted an Iguana,and it’s name is Slick

Austyn gets a Tea-Cup Poodle,it’s name is Wynter
Our Wedding is on a beach,only family and friends,we just stay at a hotel near the beach for a day,as our honeymoon.
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● My name is Jayne Ruby and my husband’s name is Daniel Robert.

● I name my first born son Dean Bartholomew.

● We have a simple, beach wedding on a beach near where we life. We don’t go on a honeymoon, and decide to save this holiday for another time.

● We name our triplets Skye Madeline, Jolie Charlotte & Sawyer Theodore.

● We name our twins Arabella Annette & Jared Michael.

● We name our daughter Melody Joanna.

● We get a snake called Slash, a cat called Aurora, a bearded dragon called Jagger, an axolotl called Venus and a husky x from the pound named Axel.

My Kids: Dean, Skye, Jolie, Sawyer, Arabella, Jared & Melody.
My Pets: Slash, Aurora, Jagger, Venus & Axel.

i found out a week ago (over FB) that my sis is pregnant. shes younger im 20 and she is 16.
she no longer lives with my family because a few years ago she started doing drugs and partying and being in gangs.. so she went to live at her fathers apt.

its an incredibly long story.

anyway she is having twins .3 mo. its insane .. .i’m pro choice. and anyway this could ruin her life.. i know my little sister is the most reckless irresponsilble being onthe planet.. shes never picked up a thing.. trust me ive lived with her.

the father of the kids is out of the picture .. hes my age and he told her he doesnt want them.
her father and my mother support her and they are telling her its going to be fine .

me and my older sister are pretty stunned. (shes 22). we think this is a huge mistake and that she should be told the turth and not led to believe that having kids is a walk in the park .

but we havent talked about it . my family is very secretive .. we dont have a healthy dynamic or any communicatioon and i was sick of it .

i called my younger sister last night and asked her why she chose not to abort.
she said that she hadnt known she was pregnant until 3 months in the pregnancy .and that she felt she couldnt kill the babies.

anyway she also started yelling crying and cursing at me .. i told her she was making a big mistake and that she should have aborted. she said "they are just kids BIG DEAL".
she said she didnt care about my opinion. .there was alot more said about the past which is a really long story .. but after i got off the phone with her she called my mom and told her i’d said she needs to get an abortion .

I didnt even say that . i told her i think she should have and i told her the truth .

no one has been honest with her .

Anyway my mom went crazy mad . she woke me up at 230 am and she wouldnt listen to me at all she kept telling me it wasnt my business.
mymom is highly immature and very juvenile. during this "conversation" she continued in mimmicking me while i talked and she kept interrupting me .all i could see was her anger and i was calm .

this is frequently how my mom confronts things with me which is why we arent close at all.

Anyway she said as logn as her parents support her i dont matter and that i have no right to say anything to my sister because im an adult and my little sister isnt.

I told her that my little sister needs to be an aadult because she has made an adult decision and furthurmore i can tell anyone what i feel if iwant to . and at least im being honest .. its unhealthy to lie and be fake about .and my mom wants me to be fake and act like its no big deal.

The question is do you think i was wrong to tell my little sister what i felt about her decision?

i ddint call her names or anything i was trying to be honest and tell her the truth .she seems to think that her father is going to fix everything with money . she doesnt even care that they wont have a dad.
no i wasnt attacking her.. ijust told her it was abad chioce in my opinion .. and that she should have aborted. thats all then we were talking about other porblems which i cant get into .. no way would i shove my opinion on anyone .. anyway i will leave her alone .. i jsut wanted to get it out there. but im not having anything to do with it anymore . which is why im not shoving anything .i have accepted her choice.

I am pro-choice too, but that does not mean I support someone shoving their opinion in my face. It is very offensive of you to demean your sister over not choosing abortion, the whole point of being pro choice is supporting her right to choose, even if you don’t agree with her, you should still support her. Yes, having kids is tough, and yes you should not sugar coat it for her. But neither should you attack or abandon her. She made her bed, she will sleep in it, and if her parents are willing to help her support the babies then really, is it any of your business?

I’m a twin. My twin has a 4.0. Perfect grades. I have something called Non verbal learning disorder. It basically means that while I excel in English, mathematical things are impossible for me. I struggle greatly with history maps, science equations/mathematical concepts and ALL math classes. I’m extremely upset because although I had a tutor, I recently failed geometry. My parents are very angry and don’t seem to understand that I’m not being lazy. I just do not understand! I work my butt off and yet never seem to make progress. My parents refuse to search further into my disability as they believe its all in my head. "You think you are bad at math therefore you are." Can anybody help me out? I’m tired of being compared to my "perfect" sister. I’m not lazy, I truly don’t understand.

Oh how frustrating, if you have been diagnosed as having non verbal learning disorder, your parents should have learnt a lot more about it, to better support you, it is not as simple as trying harder etc, because to better able to learn you need the correct supports to be put in place. Sadly some parents are good at trying to support their child with a learning disorder others are not.

Do you have an IEP?

Talk to the school counselor or a trusted teacher and ask them for support, they may even talk to your parents, they may also help in looking at the subjects your doing and organize to adjust them accordingly.

What should happen is someone needs to look at your strengths & weaknesses and how you best learn, such as visual cues etc. Then put in place the appropriate supports to help you. Encourage you to work on your weaknesses, and channel your skills into the area’s strengths to help build your self confidence.

Other things you can do is;
Keep a diary of when work is due, highlight the date a assignment is due, and do a little each day, never leave it until the last minute to do.
When doing home work have a quite environment, with plenty of space, and lighting, no t.v etc as this is distracting
Ask teacher to give assignments in point form, and maybe a little shorter in length, so you can work through at your pace, ticking off each point as you go. And your more likely to hand in a good piece of work, rather than half or nothing.
Have your tutor proof read you work
When studying for tests and exams, underline key words, or write them into a blank book with a note so you can reread them. Writing notes can help in remembering things

Edit; Next time your parents compare you to your sister, tell them that I am me, a separate entity to your sister, and its unfair to compare her to you.

Edit; I just realized that I had not said that my daughter and I are both dyslexic, my daughter has dysgraphia too. Hence my experience in the field of learning disorders.

My wonderful husband and I are still technically newlyweds, but I feel as though that amazing aspect of our lives is being somewhat overshadowed by an even more amazing aspect of our lives- we’re about to become parents, of twins! We were so excited when we found out that we conceived on our honeymoon four months ago. However, with all this added excitement comes a lot of added stress in the preparation for the arrival of our little ones. While I’m at home "taking it easy" under the request of our OB/GYN, my poor hubby is working an additional ten hours a week to make ends meet without deplenishing our savings. To show my appreciation for all his support and attentiveness to all my needs I want to surprise him with a romantic evening for just the two of us.
Here is what I have planned so far…

Candles… for ambience.
Aromatherapy Wax… because he absolutely loves the smell.
Music – Smooth Jazz mixed with Old School Ballads… to set the mood.
Dinner – Seafood Stuffing and Baked Chicken Breasts… two of his favorites.
A Gift – True Blood Season Two… he was ecstatic when I purchased Season One for his birthday.
?? What else can I do for my honey bun??
I’m on a budget, but hubby loves to be pampered. Maybe I can find some inexpensive ways to make it a spa night. I have a footbath I could pick up from my mom’s house and give him a relaxing foot massage. I think I may have seen a parrafin tub at Wal*Mart for like fifteen bucks. I could give him a manicure. I could also look online for a few of those “how-to” videos for at-home facials.
I know this may seem like a lot, but I can’t begin to explain how imaginative my sweetheart can be when it comes to the things he’ll do to put a smile on my face. I just want to show him I care.

wow i really need to applaud you for your efforts to make your man happy. Sounds like you two are on the right path. Anyway i think what you have already planned is great. Remember you said he works extra hours which means when he comes from home he will be tired. You do not want to drown him with a lot of stuff. You do not want him falling asleep during the manicure or anything right. The treat you have prepared is amazing and i am certain he will be thrilled

Bill Ayers- teaches
now VAN JONES! These people are absolutely off their rockers! They are brainwashers! Van Jones supports cold blooded cop killers! Thinks our govt flew airplanes into the twin towers! He is going to TEACH OUR KIDS! WHAT THE? He should be in a mental hospital!

I think that you should speak to the teacher and if necessary to the Principal./

I know this sounds like I’m just some stupid teenager being completely dramatic, but my parents have ruined my life. If you disagree, please mention so. If its my fault, I want to take responsibility. I understand that sometimes people do wrong things without realizing it. I want to present the FACTS as accurately as possible.

1: Whenever my parents have an idea that they support, and I disagree, regardless of who knows more about the issue, they call me moronic and stupid for not thinking they are right. Today for example, my parents wanted me to take a practice AP exam for a class. This only encompasses the multiple section, a section in which about 95% of people pass, and I practice it daily. Essentially, to me its like taking a multiple choice test that asks questions like (2 x 2 = ?). I told them that I asked around and everyone who ACTUALLY TOOK THE TEST says that these practice tests are a waste of time and money (scams). My parents made a total list of reasons why I’m stupid, insulted me, and then told me that the test would do _____, in a way that shows they feel they know everything about the test, when one of them didn’t even know there were AP exams, and the other came from a foreign country and has never even seen an exam. In school I’ve been instructed on every detail and format of the test, and have already taken practice exams. At the end, they just told me to say yes or no and then "shut the hell up" without offering a voice of my perspective.

2: Arrogance is part of my family. I even admit I can be arrogant very frequently, but my parents’ arrogance is ruining my opportunities and education. My mother acts like she knows everything about school and makes up random statistics to make herself look right. When I give real facts, the only thing she ever says is, "bullshit". I am always wrong if what I say contradicts them. This is not some of the times, this is ALL the time. So much so that its ridiculous for me and others to hear. Can you imagine someone assuming they are right ALL the time? I can’t believe they haven’t noticed how ridiculous it is. My dad just said that UCSD is significantly superior to UCLA, though technically UCLA has more competition and a higher GPA expectation/SAT score average. He just said I was full of shit and that I didn’t know what I was talking about. He said he did extensive research and I’m here ready to bet anyone $10,000 he has never been to the UCSD or UCLA websites.

3: Dominance is too much with my parents. If I play an instrument and my dad is watching his favorite show, I have to stop right there. If my parents are ever sleeping, instrument off. I was practicing scales on the saxophone (something you need to frequently practice from beginner to pro) and they were mad because I was being "repetitive", when scales are supposed to be practiced daily. Also, if I ever voice my opinion, its wrong if its not theirs, as mentioned before. I then support it with evidence and strong proof, and before 2 words come out of my mouth, I get a "shut the hell up, not one more word". If I defy this and actually prove them wrong I get a punch/slap in the face and my dad says "your mouth is writing checks your ass can’t cash"

4. Simple enough, is it legal to hit your children in the head at all? What are the physical "discipline" laws in California?

5. At math SAT class we played a game of competition in math so that we would be motivated to work harder. I beat everyone by a significant amount of points and was so motivated to become a better student. Normally I don’t do so well, but I was so happy that I was getting better. My mother asks me what we did that day and I simply tell her we were playing a competitive game. Her response: "You probably got last place cause you suck at math, huh? Rachel (her best friend’s daughter) probably did way better because she’s actually smart". I know, this has to be unreal. Seriously, what mother says that to her kid? I think this is the worst of all. I was just planning on doing well in school, going to a good college, and just never associating with my parents again, but with my mother/father continuously calling me stupid and worthless, I feel no motivation to work harder. I know its all up to me, but to have the people who raised you and gave birth to you tell you that you won’t amount to anything really hurts. The only way my parents will be kind and loving to me is if I shutup, listen always, never give opinions, pretend like I agree and enjoy everything they say, and get the top of my classes for every subject. I’ve been struggling greatly in Calculus, and for the first time I got a 98% on a test (very hard to do because its a highly advanced class with a tough teacher). My mother’s response when I come up to her excited about my score: "Why didn’t you get 100%?"

I’m not saying my parents are twin-Satans,but they are conceited, stubborn, and arrogant. Because I’m under 18, they feel that they can make their word la

you are considering yourself like you were unlucky to have parents but think of others who want to have parents and still cant have them..

but still i would consider your situation…

maybe they are getting strict on you cause they love you and they dont want you to have the lives that they encountered in the past life and maybe they are just being traumatized on the pains and hurts that they also encountered and they dont want you to suffer also the same thing what happened to them. someday if youll have children of your own, youll realize parenting was so difficult esp. when your kids were stubborn and dont respect you…

love your parents give them their own dose of medicine … guilty feelings are nastier revenge dude..

-gwenn

Just curious, I was just wondering after seeing the 19 years old twins Kristina nd Karissa and I just wondered, why some parents support their beautiful creation letting them be with an old fart like Mr. H¡ugh Hefner
Do all those girls there, giving innocent kisses, taking care of the walking corps rquire to have sex Mr. Hugh Hefner

No, it is all an illusion, just like the rest of Hollywood. Hef probably has E.D. these days anyhow.

Please help me in narrowing down a stroller. We are parents of twins. We never jog but walk over the sidewalks and visit the stores and mall a lot.

I am shopping for a twin stroller and have narrowed it down to
1.city mini double (http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Jogger-Double-Jogging-Stroller/dp/B002LBZS9E/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=sporting-goods&qid=1263085794&sr=1-2)
2.BOB revolution 12" AW Duallie (http://www.amazon.com/BOB-Revolution-Aluminum-Duallie-Stroller/dp/B0011Y0GQ2/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top)
3.Combi twin sport EX stroller (Wasabi)

Must Have
1.Safe
2.The most important thing for is comfort for baby. That is nice fabric that does not become too sweaty. Good support for the back. Got to have a cushion.
3.Should have independent reclining seats
4.Should have full shades that are independent of each other
5.Reasonably light below 30 lb
6.Should fit into our SUV.
7.Easy to maneuver

Nice to have
1.Should have reasonable storage
2.Must have or have accessories for snack tray and parent cup holder

Parents of twins please share your experience
Currently we have the snap and go and it does a very great job. However we do not want to have a tandem stroller as the baby sitting in the rear keeps on kicking the baby in the front.
Thanks to everyone for the wonderful responses. I really like the Bob dualle 12"AW. However my wife had a tough time folding it and lifting it up so I have to rule that one out. The city mini seems to flimsy. Even the sales person said that it is not good for the childs back and it is recommended to add a hardboard. So I ruled that one out to so I am left with only Combi sports LX stroller. So I am thinking about trying this one out. Any advise from combi stroller users for twins?

This link has a bunch of user reviews for the BOB Revolution, which I think is a great stroller. http://www.joggingstrollerratings.com/53/bob-revolution-duallie-stroller-review/

However, I actually prefer the baby jogger citi, but I don’t like the mini- I find it too small. Here are some reviews on the City Classic model, I think it’s a better design than the mini, and it has all the features you were looking for.
http://www.joggingstrollerratings.com/49/baby-jogger-city-classic-double-jogging-stroller/