Im really really upset and confused right now because Im in IBP and my parents cant take the fact that Im always doing homework. Fine, Im not always homework, but I get on facebook as well. But Im a family-oriented person. My family is always going out to have stupid barbeques at the beach or family gatherings and stuff. I actually hate those things. Theyre freaking stupid, especially with the fact that when I go, theres always only kids around. But I feel like when I dont go, Im not spending enough time with my family and because of that they get upset with me or whatever (but they just dont really show it).

I live in the United Arab Emirates so right now my family are on their way to Dubai while I have to sit at home and write a lab report that is due today (yes, I know its a Saturday, but my teacher made it due today). The thing is I really wanted to go to Dubai as well, but I just couldnt tag along because of HOMEWORK! Im devastated (am I using the word correctly?) with the fact that Im always stuck between choosing family or school. Both are important to me. My mom said that if I do IB Diploma, I might be able to skip first year of college. I think its important if I get to skip that year because my parents are also supporting my older twin sisters college and its like they have to pay lots of money for them already and I dont wanna get my parents to pay a lot of money for me too. So thats why I want to try to do Diploma!!

But Im also kind of thinking of taking Certificate next year, but I dont know if thats gonna let me skip through that first year of college… IM SO CONFUSED!!!!

Im not good at time managing either.

And plus my family is kind of going up and down meaning my parents are always fighting and Im SO SO afraid that if my parents get a (second-time) divorce in the future, whats gonna happen to me?

Or what if anyway if they dont get a divorce or whatever, what if I decide to NOT take the diploma and suddenly next year my family decides to spend less time for family and its like HEY MOM AND DAD, I DECIDED TO NOT DO IB DIPLOMA AND ONLY NOW YOU DECIDED TO SPEND LESS FAMILY TIME??? Im CONFUSED!!!!!!

I just feel like having a talk with them about respecting me and not pressuring me about always doing homework and not spending time with family but if I do, my parents will be like `well youre always on facebook though` yea well what am I suppose to do, though. I get bored.

What should I do what should I do what should i do? Im tired of crying about this already please help and give helpful and motivating feedback I need it so much pleasee :((((( Thank you

As a mother of kids in a similar scenario I would suggest that the first thing to do is talk to your parents one to one and share this with them. They will solve all your confusion as they love you the most. And for family time - unless you join you wont like them and if you are doing it to spend time together then go with the mindset that you are going to enjoy whatever !!! When you go a few times you will fit in the groove and feel more comfortable and happy. Hope this helps….

My Boyfriend died in a car accident 5 months ago and a week before he died we had sex and the condom broke the day of his funeral i found out i was pregnant. A month or so later i found out it was twins and once they told me the genders its gonna be girls! My parents are teachers in Asia and my older brother lives in nunavut with his fiancee.What i’m i going to do i have a job at a local grocery store, and im still in university to be a nurse and will have a shit pile of student loans in the end. I live in a too bedroom apartment that i would not recommend raising my kids there. What i am i going to do! ( i am not doing a abortion my family s strongly against them and me 2)

SO Sorry to hear about your boyfriend, but at least your getting something of his back. Where is his family located? Could you not get some support from them? There might even be government funding since he passed away. I’d go and talk to a government agent or a social worker. They should have lots of resources available to you.

I have recently started receiving income support as a lone parent because my husband has left me and my twin babies. I have read about an NHS optical voucher, does this provide any cost towards the payment of contact lenses? I currently get daily disposables. Does it also pay towards glasses and sight test? Does it help towards glasses and contacts or just one or the other? Does the optician sort out the paperwork for the voucher? Thank you.
I have found out from specsavers exactly what I’ll get, either the money towards glasses or the equivalent towards contact lenses.

From my knowledge it helps with the cost of the sight test and glasses not sure about I contact lenses though.

Ok, so here’s the story: My mom’s cousin has given up his rights as the father of his twin 7-year-olds (a boy and girl), as has their mother, and so after much consideration and prayer my mom and I have decided that we are going to adopt them. Despite the fact that we haven’t ever met the twins in person, I’m really excited!

…But of course, I know that there are going to be times when this is a hard situation. My mom has been a single parent to me for the vast majority of my life (I’m 19), and so I know there will be times when one or both of us are frustrated or tired. So I’m wondering if anyone can point me in the direction of an online support group for me, or at least if anyone can impart some advice to me.

I just would like to have a group of people around my age with an understanding of my situation so that on the hard days where I think I’m going to crazy I’ll have an outlet for all that emotion so that the kids aren’t affected in any way. I’m really looking forward to sort of co-parenting these kids and being the "cool, loving sister" type to them, and I would love some help and advice on how to do that. So anyway, thanks so much for any tips, links, etc. that you can provide. Have a blessed day. =)
By the way, I know I kind of made it sound like my mom and I will be sharing parenting responsibilities, but just to be clear I will not be a legal guardian of the kids. I just want to know how to be the best helper to my mom and also how to keep myself sane while making the transition from only child to sibling of twins. Thanks for any helpful answers. =)
Actually, there are parts of the story that I didn’t want to toss out there for the whole world to see. If you must know, however, the kids live in Oregon and we live in NC. Their mother is an abusive drug addict, and my mother’s cousin views them as "her problem", not his. The only other family, as I said before, is unstable and would only be taking them in for the money, and we’re not certain about the safety of their current foster home. So it is actually an emergency.

As for us having never met, their social worker is sending us pictures and information about them and vice versa over then next few months, and then my mom will be flying out there to meet them before they come out here.

By the way, I don’t know if you meant to come off as quickly judgmental, but you kind of did. I do understand your concern about the situation, believe me. But I think your wording of those concerns could have been a lot less combative so that I wouldn’t have felt so defensive. Just a thought.

Adoptions placements often happen without first meeting the child. Our did. From a fostering POV your situation is very normal, often foster parents recieve emergency calls and hours later the children arrive at thier home. ( People who don’t foster or adopt a child through fostercare rarely understand thats it not the same as a child minding service.)

I would suggest you look for a local councellor experienced in adoption issues and assiting families. From there they should be able to help you find a support group with younger people around your age or even just a good friend who loves you unconditionally and will let you off load if there is an emotional build up without offering a load of unwanted/or needed advice.

All the best for your new family.

My twins were born yesterday morning, Baby A is Ethan James who was 6 lbs 2 oz. and Baby B is Adalynn Paige who was 5 lbs 4 oz. I also have my beautiful 3 year old daughter Mackenzie Amiya. I get to bring them home tomorrow and i am nervous. My 3 year old is now asking me to keep the babies here at the hospital, and just a week ago she was all excited. Any other parents out there pregnant/have multiples? I just need some support here. Thank you.

Twin mom here! My girls are 13 months, and now that they are starting to turn into toddlers, I sometimes YEARN for their infant days, not the first few months mind you, I mean like 6-7 months old, they were sleeping well and were just fun little balls of baby, now they are getting ‘tudes and want to go in different directions, if not they want to be in the same spot as each other and argue over that spot and anything else they can argue over! (well they can’t really talk but they can squeal and scream!)
Bring you older girl a nice little gift, let her know she’s a ‘big sister’ now and let her know she can help you if she wants, and when she does help you (brings you a diaper, etc) praise her to no end! The first 6-8 weeks will be the hardest, body-numbingly hard, but if possible, try to still find time to have one on one mommy-daughter time with her to let her know that even though there are new babies in the house she hasn’t been replaced and you still love her. And try to remember she’s only 3, still a baby too. I’ve seen exhausted parents forget that and yell and expect their toddler to "grow up", and the poor thing just gets more resentful of the new baby. Good luck and congrats!!

I remember early on knowing my mother made bad desicions and I knew she resented her mother as well, although she’d deny it even right now. But its her mother’s fault for how her life is now. For some reason my mother was stupid enough to not become an airline stewardess when she had the opportunity to do so because my grandmother, for who the hell knows, decided it was too risky and told my mom to not do it. I don’t know why my mother obeyed my grandmother like a child but nothing she told my mother helped her.

My mother eventually became a high-school dropout with 2 twins and 1 with mental disability (my sister). My dad is a son of a b*tch who makes babies everywhere and can’t seem to take care of none of them. To be honest, in my mind I don’t have a father. He’s still some stranger that I wish would go away everytime I meet him. The funny thing is, my mother knew this, him not being worth sh*t, I mean. He already had 2 ‘baby mamas’….so did she think the 3rd time would be a charm? Again, who the hell knows but I know none of this has turned out good in anyway. My mother ended up living in the projects with kids supported by the US goverment. Welfare, food stamps, WIC, and living in a ghetto—yes all the things that would make you wish she’d had gotten an abortion, came our way. My mother likes to put this "front" on as if all this doesn’t faze her, as if all this is ok. She still goes church, which hasn’t did sh*t for her no time I can remember.

My mother’s dating history post-2 kids at once hasn’t been good either. Every boyfriend and husband she’s had while I was growning wasn’t worth sh*t and she knows it. I’m surprised none of the boyfriends she’s ever had hasn’t beat her or hit her—-but don’t worry. She’s currently seeing a guy who admit he choked his last girlfriend because he thought she was cheating online—and guess what?—She’s still seeing him. I guess she wants to end up in being the girlfriend he chokes to death.

You are too young to see the "big picture". Maybe it is all this that you’ve gotten to experience in your young life that will make you be a fabulously successful person? You have seen examples of what bad choices can do to your life. You need to be learning from all of these things so that you do not need to make these mistakes yourself. You need to be taking all of this in and turn it into something positive in your life. More often than not, kids in this situation will grow up to be adults that are just like their parents. It is up to you to shape your future. Your parents have tried to give you the tools to succeed in life, but it obviously seems like they don’t have much in their own "tool boxes". But ultimately, your anger and hatred will not benefit you. You need to look more at the good qualities in people and try to incorporate the best you see in others into who you become.

My twin brother and I always thought our parents were good people until recently. My brother started dating this amazing african woman a year ago and I’ve never ever seen him so happy. My parents seemed ok with her because she is truly a great person and really is his soul mate. When my brother announced he was going to propose, I was thrilled, but my parents turned on him and begged him to "get out of his jungle fever phase and keep the family white." When he refused, they called his gf, blasted her with racist remarks and tried to convince her to dump my brother. My brother and his fiance tried to confront my parents but they acted like they are doing the right thing. He’s cut them off and I fully support him. My parents are now threathening to disown me for supporting my brother and not siding with them. What should I do? I am so outraged I stopped talking to them too. No racist answer please.

Nope, it’s never okay. They have let you and your brother down severely by this unfounded, disgusting behaviour. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. As hard as it may be, your best bet is for you and your brother to stick to your guns, tell your parents you’re disowning *them* until they apologise to all parties concerned and learn to love and support you both the way a parent should.

Familial love should be unconditional. They’re putting their prejudices before their children, which is an atrocious way to behave. Do not give in to them. Tell them in no uncertain terms that you love them but their behaviour is unacceptable and that they won’t be involved in the lives of any of their children or grandchildren until they can reign in their wilful ignorance and be supportive of you, your brother, and his fiance.

My boyfriend is worried that the mother of his one year old twins can just pack up her stuff and leave the state with her kids. They have been separated for 6 months, but he has been contributing to buying diapers and wipes whenever they are needed by her. And giving her money for the twins. She also lets him have the twins on the weekends. But neither one of them have gone to the court or state regarding getting custody or filing any child support or parenting plans. Can she just up and move to Utah without getting custody in order or a parenting plan done???
The twins has his last name and he signed the affidavit saying he is the father. The hospital lost the actual birth certificates.

Yes she can. Your boyfriend will have to take the matter to court to be granted any rights that the mother might be denying him as a father. But if she’s granted legal custody of the children, then your boyfriend can’t prevent her from moving to another state anyway.

You and your boyfriend(what are your names?) are 17and at a party and things heat up you sleep together and a month later you find out you’re 4 weeks along,and you tell your parents,they support you.At your next doctor’s vist you find out you’re having a boy,what do you name him?Now your son is 2 1/2 and you find out you’re expecting again!You and your boyfriend decide to get married,what type of ceramony is it?Where’s it located?Where do you go on your honeymoon(if you would want to preganant)?Your husbands at work you go to the doctors and find out you’re pregnant with triplets!girls and one boy,what are thir names?You’re first born sone is 4 1/2 the triplets are 2 1/2 and you find out your birth control failed and you’re pregnant,and you’re having twins,a boy and a girl.You’re Grandmother who you loved very much just passed away so you want to use her name in the babygirl’s name,and you’re father says he would like it if you used his name in the baby boy’s name,what are their names?Finally your oldest son is 8 1/2 the triplets are 6 1/2 and the twins are 4 1/2,you get your tubes tied,but you find out you’re pregnant again!It’s a girl!You decide you want a name that is very unique and not too common,what is her name?You’re finally done ahving kids and all the kids want a pet,your oldest son wants a pet that is cool,and hisses,what do you get him?The Triplets each want something fluffy and cute,what do you ge them?The Twins both want something different from the other kids,but want something that fits them,what are their personalities like,and what do you get them?Your daughter wants a puppy,what type of puppy do you get her and what is it’s name?

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Kellsea & Zachary
Levi Kenneth

Summer Lynn
Jordyn Kelly
Kaleb William

Kassidy Sue
Johnathan Michael

Austyn Rae

Garden Snake,named Slithers

A Kitty for Summer,named Smokey
A Kitty for Jordyn,named Stormy
A Pomeranian for Kaleb,named Nikki

Kassidy is a lover,nice,and fun so she gets a labrador puppy,blonde,and it’s name is Sunny.
Johnathan is wild,sweet,and a little prankster so he wanted an Iguana,and it’s name is Slick

Austyn gets a Tea-Cup Poodle,it’s name is Wynter
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● My name is Jayne Ruby and my husband’s name is Daniel Robert.

● I name my first born son Dean Bartholomew.

● We have a simple, beach wedding on a beach near where we life. We don’t go on a honeymoon, and decide to save this holiday for another time.

● We name our triplets Skye Madeline, Jolie Charlotte & Sawyer Theodore.

● We name our twins Arabella Annette & Jared Michael.

● We name our daughter Melody Joanna.

● We get a snake called Slash, a cat called Aurora, a bearded dragon called Jagger, an axolotl called Venus and a husky x from the pound named Axel.

My Kids: Dean, Skye, Jolie, Sawyer, Arabella, Jared & Melody.
My Pets: Slash, Aurora, Jagger, Venus & Axel.

i found out a week ago (over FB) that my sis is pregnant. shes younger im 20 and she is 16.
she no longer lives with my family because a few years ago she started doing drugs and partying and being in gangs.. so she went to live at her fathers apt.

its an incredibly long story.

anyway she is having twins .3 mo. its insane .. .i’m pro choice. and anyway this could ruin her life.. i know my little sister is the most reckless irresponsilble being onthe planet.. shes never picked up a thing.. trust me ive lived with her.

the father of the kids is out of the picture .. hes my age and he told her he doesnt want them.
her father and my mother support her and they are telling her its going to be fine .

me and my older sister are pretty stunned. (shes 22). we think this is a huge mistake and that she should be told the turth and not led to believe that having kids is a walk in the park .

but we havent talked about it . my family is very secretive .. we dont have a healthy dynamic or any communicatioon and i was sick of it .

i called my younger sister last night and asked her why she chose not to abort.
she said that she hadnt known she was pregnant until 3 months in the pregnancy .and that she felt she couldnt kill the babies.

anyway she also started yelling crying and cursing at me .. i told her she was making a big mistake and that she should have aborted. she said "they are just kids BIG DEAL".
she said she didnt care about my opinion. .there was alot more said about the past which is a really long story .. but after i got off the phone with her she called my mom and told her i’d said she needs to get an abortion .

I didnt even say that . i told her i think she should have and i told her the truth .

no one has been honest with her .

Anyway my mom went crazy mad . she woke me up at 230 am and she wouldnt listen to me at all she kept telling me it wasnt my business.
mymom is highly immature and very juvenile. during this "conversation" she continued in mimmicking me while i talked and she kept interrupting me .all i could see was her anger and i was calm .

this is frequently how my mom confronts things with me which is why we arent close at all.

Anyway she said as logn as her parents support her i dont matter and that i have no right to say anything to my sister because im an adult and my little sister isnt.

I told her that my little sister needs to be an aadult because she has made an adult decision and furthurmore i can tell anyone what i feel if iwant to . and at least im being honest .. its unhealthy to lie and be fake about .and my mom wants me to be fake and act like its no big deal.

The question is do you think i was wrong to tell my little sister what i felt about her decision?

i ddint call her names or anything i was trying to be honest and tell her the truth .she seems to think that her father is going to fix everything with money . she doesnt even care that they wont have a dad.
no i wasnt attacking her.. ijust told her it was abad chioce in my opinion .. and that she should have aborted. thats all then we were talking about other porblems which i cant get into .. no way would i shove my opinion on anyone .. anyway i will leave her alone .. i jsut wanted to get it out there. but im not having anything to do with it anymore . which is why im not shoving anything .i have accepted her choice.

I am pro-choice too, but that does not mean I support someone shoving their opinion in my face. It is very offensive of you to demean your sister over not choosing abortion, the whole point of being pro choice is supporting her right to choose, even if you don’t agree with her, you should still support her. Yes, having kids is tough, and yes you should not sugar coat it for her. But neither should you attack or abandon her. She made her bed, she will sleep in it, and if her parents are willing to help her support the babies then really, is it any of your business?