Twins are Fun http://www.twinsarefun.com Celebrating All Things Related to Parenting Twins Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:45:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 en hourly 1 Federal tax return went to my ex for back support….problem…I don’t owe any? Now what can I do? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/#comments Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:45:44 +0000 admin http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ Having twins & Daddy wants to buy two separate travel systems,help? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/having-twins-daddy-wants-to-buy-two-separate-travel-systemshelp/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/having-twins-daddy-wants-to-buy-two-separate-travel-systemshelp/#comments Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:45:21 +0000 admin http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/having-twins-daddy-wants-to-buy-two-separate-travel-systemshelp/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ Attempting to Locate Your Natural Mother And Father? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/attempting-to-locate-your-natural-mother-and-father/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/attempting-to-locate-your-natural-mother-and-father/#comments Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:25:23 +0000 Raquel http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/attempting-to-locate-your-natural-mother-and-father/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ The Definitive Intricacy: Committing Yourself On Crib Bedding For Your Newborn Boy’s Living Space http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/the-definitive-intricacy-committing-yourself-on-crib-bedding-for-your-newborn-boys-living-space/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/the-definitive-intricacy-committing-yourself-on-crib-bedding-for-your-newborn-boys-living-space/#comments Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:25:22 +0000 Raquel http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/the-definitive-intricacy-committing-yourself-on-crib-bedding-for-your-newborn-boys-living-space/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ Can you choose to have twins both boy and girl through IVF? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/can-you-choose-to-have-twins-both-boy-and-girl-through-ivf/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/can-you-choose-to-have-twins-both-boy-and-girl-through-ivf/#comments Fri, 05 Mar 2010 10:19:11 +0000 admin http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/can-you-choose-to-have-twins-both-boy-and-girl-through-ivf/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ Bare Bones And Modest: The Opposed Prospect’s Road Map To Crib Sheets http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/bare-bones-and-modest-the-opposed-prospects-road-map-to-crib-sheets/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/bare-bones-and-modest-the-opposed-prospects-road-map-to-crib-sheets/#comments Fri, 26 Feb 2010 00:20:19 +0000 Raquel http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/bare-bones-and-modest-the-opposed-prospects-road-map-to-crib-sheets/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ Surprise, You Need a Special Dental Treatment Today! http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/surprise-you-need-a-special-dental-treatment-today/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/surprise-you-need-a-special-dental-treatment-today/#comments Fri, 26 Feb 2010 00:20:18 +0000 Raquel http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/surprise-you-need-a-special-dental-treatment-today/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ Does your family support your choice to have a large family? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/does-your-family-support-your-choice-to-have-a-large-family/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/does-your-family-support-your-choice-to-have-a-large-family/#comments Sun, 21 Feb 2010 17:22:39 +0000 admin http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/does-your-family-support-your-choice-to-have-a-large-family/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ My girlfriend is having twins! Having some daddy problems!? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/my-girlfriend-is-having-twins-having-some-daddy-problems/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/my-girlfriend-is-having-twins-having-some-daddy-problems/#comments Fri, 19 Feb 2010 19:25:28 +0000 admin http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/my-girlfriend-is-having-twins-having-some-daddy-problems/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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]]> http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/03/federal-tax-return-went-to-my-ex-for-back-supportproblemi-dont-owe-any-now-what-can-i-do/feed/ Handling LARGE sibling group - 5 adoptive kids and 1 bio.? http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/handling-large-sibling-group-5-adoptive-kids-and-1-bio/ http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/handling-large-sibling-group-5-adoptive-kids-and-1-bio/#comments Wed, 17 Feb 2010 18:31:30 +0000 admin http://www.twinsarefun.com/2010/02/handling-large-sibling-group-5-adoptive-kids-and-1-bio/ Ok I am freaking out. My ex and I have been in and out of court for years for our 2 children. At one point I owed him money and they put an offset on my taxes, a lien on my car, and garnished my wages. The judge ordered that it stop because while I did owe him for a short period, my kids live with me and he pays nothing. We go back to court 2/17/10 because he owes me over 5000.00 for last year alone. My state return is on hold and my federal went to pay back TANF that he collected when my kids were with him and he lost his job, even though the attorneys have determined that it is his job to pay this since he owes me so much and was collecting support from my paychecks for 15mths because the IV-D people wouldn’t answer the calls from me or my attorney to see why they had not enforced the court order to stop all of this. I got the lien removed in June, 2009, the wage garnishment they finally took care of in September, 2009 but they obviously forgot to inform the IRS because they just took every cent of my return. I can not survive without this money…I am raising our kids with no help from him, he doesn’t even see them anymore; I am a single parent and have twins that are younger than the 2 I have with him (their father pays but he doesn’t make much so its like 50 a week); I am in school full time and just lost my job 3weeks ago because I could no longer afford the child care. Oh btw the ex I am referring to works for the Railroad and makes approx 4000.00 a month… He has shown that he could care less what the court or the lawyers say as he never returned a penny of the support he collected when he didn’t have them, and I am terrified that he will spend the money before anyone opens on Monday and then they will say "oops, our mistake" and order him to pay restitution at 15.00 per week on top of his current support (which he never paid or pays so I have to wait till March to start receiving it thru the wage garnishment. I have never heard of so many court people being involved in a case and then making so many mistakes. My child support modification was pushed back because the IV-D office found 5 or more mail tubs of mail in their basement from March-April of 2009 unopened and made everyone refile like nothing ever happened. I lost money there, lost money when he kept the cs payments he wasn’t supposed to, lost when the judge told him he better pay the support to the clerk until the garnishment took effect, and now they took this. My car is broken, my bills are due, my kids need things and I am a step away from having a breakdown. There should be someone I can call or fax the court order to so that they can reverse the transaction but every number I called is a recording and no one is open….Anyone who has a law degree or a real legal know how PLEASE HELP ME!! Its not fair that they can mess up my life like this and I am expected to … "I don’t even know what they could possibly expect me to do"….Oh and of course, I live in indiana…..
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Ok thank you so much…I did get that number and left a message and will definitely call them again Monday (and again and again till they answer and help me…lol) I was so freaked out about them saying it was already direct deposited and figured it meant to him….whew….THANKS SO MUCH!!!

I understand your pain I went through a nasty divorce that lasted for 2 years over three kids and an ex who doesn’t make as much as I do and wanted me to pay child support and have the kids in his full custody and on and on and on. Believe me there is a light at the end of this long dark tunnel, be prepared when you go to court and DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT every single thing that happens with dates/times etc. that stands up in a court more than anything thats going to come out of anyones mouth keep a journal and document every single thing that occurs concerning your ex. As far as your tax refund goes, its the department of child support services for your state that has intercepted your refund, you need to let the judge know at your next court date so that he can order them to give it back to you or order your ex to pay it back if he received it. If he is not paying his child support that needs to be documented and submitted to the child support dept as well yes it takes time for them to enforce the order on his employer but it will happen and then if he doesn’t pay welcome to arrears, and he will pay either through his drivers license being suspended or his tax refund next year. I hope everything works out and if you have an attorney make sure you are noting this all to submit to him/her. Good luck

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